So Christmas is over, the hustle and bustle of Boxing Day has passed, and the excitement of New Years is gone. You’ve given yourself a New Years resolution, but you’re unmotivated, you’re lost, and you just can’t kick these seasonal blues that the Holidays have left you with – I am right there with you!
So I spent the last few weeks researching some amazing tips on how to kick these seasonal blues that the Holidays and your after Christmas credit card bill has left you.
I decided to research these tips when I found myself, just starting December and feeling absolutely lost, alone and really sad. I have no reason to feel these, I have a supportive husband, an affectionate 2 year old, and amazing friends and family. I had just signed up for a new work out routine with a trainer that I was so excited for, but something was missing. I will tell you what it was, it was my motivation, my self love, and my happiness. We found ourselves renting our friends basement suite this holiday season as we waited to get into our new home and I think the lack of my routine and sons routine really wore on me. So I decided to kick this sadness to the curb and do something about it. I researched ways to boost my mood, tips to deal with seasonal depression, how to handle the debt that comes with the holidays, and how to deal with Stress. I found so many amazing tips, and started to think, I can’t be the only person who feels this way. As I went through my training program we were asked to complete mindset modules that really made me think about my feelings and so many people had similar feelings I did. So here we are, the blog post to help you kick the Seasonal Blues.
- Are you holding onto something that hurt you?
I recently had some fallings out with people, some in which I felt attacked my character, and sometimes I found myself re-reading these messages, So I deleted them. (I save everything messages) I have saved a ton of screen shots over the years, emails and things from people that were really hurtful to me. So I decided purge, why let these things from 5 years ago weigh me down? 2018 would not be another year of self contentiously holding this pain any longer.
- Are you letting the stress of the future weigh on you?
We all dread the after Christmas bills, we feel pressure from our partners, are families, and our society to get these amazing expensive gifts, maybe not even expensive but lots of people to give thanks to with gifts. Then the bills come and you feel the pressure of that. Or maybe there is a looming event you don’t want to attend and that is looming. Whatever it is, don’t let the future weigh on you. Focus on each day. Take steps to make sure that you are living in the moment – and enjoying it!
- Start each day with a nice thought!
I literally found myself waking up and not being able to go to the gym, barely being able to get up for work. It was a serious struggle, so I decided to start my day with 1 nice thought to myself. Whether it was something I was grateful for, or something that about myself that I liked. Many days it felt overly forced, but slowly I noticed it making a serious change in my mood. I could see the difference on days I forgot, but soon a habit started and my mood changed.
- Spend time thinking about what you have to be grateful for
I read this awesome tip, spend time each night to review your day. In that day what were 3 things that made you happy, or that you were grateful for. Some days all that was on my list, was my families health, my extra 10 mins of sleep, the fact it wasn’t raining or snowing. But when you have a bad day, having this journal to look back on, can really help you ground yourself and find happiness in the worst of days/moods.
- Take time for yourself.
As a parent this can be really difficult, but it is so important to take time for yourself and enjoy it. It is vital for us to do something for ourselves each day, if you don’t your going to go crazy!! My time for myself started as a few extra minutes standing in the hot shower, to some days sitting in my car after work and take a few minutes to meditate or review the day. Sometimes it was going to get my hair done, going to the gym or a work out class. Whatever it is that you enjoy – take a few minutes to do it, or a few minutes to just sit quietly and take in the day and let your mind rest, and recharge.
- Get Exercise.
Whether you go for a nice brisk walk, or make it to the gym for a work out there is no doubt that getting exercise really does make you happier. I knew I had lost my motivation so I signed up for a work out challenge where others could help motivate me and help me hold myself accountable.
- Try something new
Maybe what your lacking in life isn’t positive thought rather you have gotten so stuck on the same old life. Try something new with a friend or just yourself, it may give you a challenge you are looking for or even just get that brain working in a new desiring way.
- Give love to those you care about.
Sometimes when we are needing love, we can feel the love we are needing by giving it to others. When I was feeling really down, I sent some important people in my life a quick message to say what they mean to me and to let them know I am thinking of them daily and am blessed to have them in my life. Even though we don’t see people everyday and we have friendships that don’t need to be affirmed to stay alive, you never know when your caring message will push them through a rough day! – It will also make your day better I promise!
- Think Positive
It is funny how people always preach the think happy be happy, but it truly works. If you are always thinking negative you can’t expect anything good to come of it! So try to remind yourself to be positive, and think positive.
- Lastly face the fear.
Reading about being negative thoughts and how to deal with them really seemed like the most important thing is to take a deeper look at where those feelings are originating from… what is really causing you to feel that way. What fear is your mind trying to protect you from. Spend some time thinking about it, and try to face it to give yourself some sanity .
I hope these tips help, remember that you aren’t alone in how you feel and that it is possible to change your mindset and start slowly kicking this Seasonal Blues.