Our Wedding


One year ago I married, my guy. I met Chris 10 years ago and immediately when we met, I think we both knew that this one was different. It took 2 years for us to become a couple and after 7 years together, a baby, a house we tied the knot last year in front of 25 family members and close friends. It was absolutely perfect in every way. We had a small ceremony in our favorite park with family and friends where we shared vows we wrote for one another and had our son give us our rings. After which we had a small reception in the back of Mission with 125 of our closest friends and family. I decided for our 1 year anniversary to share the details of how I made our dream day come together. As most people know I did this on a budget as well I love crafts so I did a lot of it on my own, for anyone planning a wedding – I was not working at the time which made this a lot easier! I also had a solid group of people helping me out – My mother Lisa, helped me by giving up many weekends to go thrifting, scout flowers, make table runners, My girlfriend Ashley who gave up a weekend to fill her house with the smells of pulled pork for our food, my sister-in-law Colette who made us a delicious 3 tier wedding cake, and to my own sister who took pictures of the ladies getting ready, our rings and the reception hall before guests arrived and who bar tended the night for us! To everyone who helped us decorate the hall and to my friends who helped with the many crafts that took place before – Chris and I are incredibly blessed for everyone’s contribution to our big day, we will remember it for always as it was an incredible day!


To start, when Chris proposed it wasn’t a big deal, he didn’t plan it for weeks, it was spontaneous and just us laying in bed. He looked at me and said “let’s get married” at first I just ignored it because I didn’t think he was serious. But he was serious, he wanted to elope like I had wanted for a long time. We thought for a while about what kind of wedding we wanted. I had always dreamt of getting married on Canada Day on a beach or in a field just the three of us. However we have many people in our lives who love us dearly and it meant a lot to them to share in this special day with us. With that consider we decided to have a small ceremony in our favorite park in our home town of Mission, British Columbia; Fraser River heritage Park . Unfortunately Canada Day did not work out as Chris’s grandmother would not be able to attend so we switched the date to July 16th 2016. I had 4 months to plan our wedding, things needed to move quickly!

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My friends quickly added me to the many Facebook pages for people planning a wedding: Wedding buy and sell lower mainland and Wedding Woes Lower Mainland. Both of these groups I found extremely helpful. After more discussion of the wedding we decided that we would do a reception with friends and family, but keep our ceremony strictly family only, to which we later added our closest friends. My mom and I then decided to check out some local halls, because it was such short notice it was very hard to find a hall available, earlier in the year Chris had his 10 year reunion at Mc Connell Creek Hall. which he thought was a super cool place because there was no cell reception and people actually engaged with one another, After my mother and I went to view the hall, I knew it was the perfect place. It was deep in the back of Mission, Tucked into the most beautiful little place, away from everything – and it was available! We quickly booked the hall and began with the rest of planning.

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Through the Facebook groups I was able to get a Thank you sign made to hang on our guest book and gift table, a wedding dress (to which I ended up reselling), The perfect table numbers, some craft supplies, and wooden center pieces.  I was also able to discuss with lots of women planning a wedding, good photographers in the area, where to purchase flowers from, and after the wedding I was able to sell the majority of my wedding supplies. One of the things about the hall was that there was no dishwasher, so any dishes we used would have to wash. We decided rather than dealing with this we would bring in our own dishes and take them home to wash. We decided on retrieving eclectic china plates from thrift stores – 130 of them to be exact! I ended up re-selling 120 of the plates, keeping 10 as keepsakes! The wedding favors were mason jar cups, which I customized for each person with their name on it, and used this as our seating plan as well.

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After my mom and I looked at a ton of rustic country weddings we came together with the center piece. It would be 3 mason jars – varying in size – the largest to contain hydrangea’s and baby’s breath (Flowers were purchased at Costco for $250), the two smaller jars had rocks and submerged candle in them. I got the candles off amazon, rocks from the dollar store, most of the jars my mom had from her mothers canning collect, the rest were purchased at Wal-Mart. The table runners I made out of Burlap I purchased in bulk from Walmart – this was a steal of a deal I purchased it for $24.00. I hung the remainder of the burlap behind our wedding cake, and ended up reselling all of it! Also on the tables we had mason jars filled with Boom chicka pop popcorn and munchies mix.  For the remainder of the decor my best friends father works at Sadie Ann Murray Antiques, where I was able to rent a ton of stuff, some wine barrels to flip over for people to use as table outside, some random Bowls and tins that we used for buns for pulled pork sandwiches, a washboard for decor, a small gun powder barrel for decor, a bird-cage for decor, Antique dessert tray for the cake table’s extra desserts. I collected a ton of chalkboard from varying business in the lower mainland, a few we found at  Creekside Home Decor in Chilliwack – if you haven’t been to this store you are seriously missing out it is a gem. We also found the large wash barrel at The Market by Spruce Collective in downtown Abbotsford – another gem!! This wash barrel was actually a surprise I had gone there with my mom and fallen in love with it, but couldn’t justify the price for decor… So my Mom went back when she was alone and picked it up and hid it in her garage till we decorated the night before and surprised me! I used my Mom’s rustic mail box for the cards and our guest book was 2 Jenga games for people to sign as it is also our favorite game to play, We also had a life-sized Jenga set up outside, and 2 tents with chairs underneath for people to spend time in outside as the hall is very cozy.

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As for Food, since our wedding was an after dinner reception we wanted to stick to appetizers so we got 55 lbs of pork shoulder and roasts from Rempel’s Meats in Abbotsford and my girlfriend Ashley made a delicious pulled pork that is still talked about! We also picked up, fruit trays, vegetable trays and meat trays from Costco which were a total steal! My Step mother Sophie made a couple delicious salads, and I got 150 samosas from the always delicious Sangnam Sweets in Mission. My mom also ordered a ton of delicious treats from my Aunt’s bakery – Birdie’s Bakery in Chilliwack – you definitely need to stop here while visiting Creekside Home Decor. Chris’s sister Colette has a love for baking, so she  made us a delicious cake for our wedding, the top tier was bacon flavored! When it came to the bar we ordered 2 kegs from Mission Springs Pub and the rest of the liquor we purchased at the Government liquor store. My sister was the bartender (so thoughtful of her) and we charged our guests $20 for a wrist band which provided them with bottomless drinks. We also had house white and red wine on the table for the guests.

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As for my dress I had purchased one-off the Facebook group and tried it on, at the time I was breastfeeding and found the chest to be very uncomfortable. I could definitely have worked my ass off to lose weight, but I’ve never been one to want to feel pressure to lose weight, So I decided to go to David’s Bridal in Langley, and look for a dress. For me the dress was a minor detail, so I was not willing to spend a fortune, I told them I wanted to spend no more than $300. I know, you probably think I am crazy but I just don’t like to spend a ton of money on things that won’t be used a dozen times. So I went to Davids Bridal and fell in love with 1 dress but it didn’t seem to fit my wedding, I had one left in the room and was feeling a little discouraged as nothing seemed to be working. When I got back in the room, there was a elegantly simple lace dress left. I put it on and I felt good about, I came out and Mom started crying. I looked in the mirror and knew this was the one, with my $50 dollar coupon the dress was $350 and perfect!

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When it came to my bouquet and Chris’s boutonniere Chris’s mom flew into town and my mom and I had scoped out some flower places in Aldergrove that sell flowers from their driveway so my goal was to buy a bouquet from there and make my two bouquets and the boutonniere. I picked Chris’s mom up from the airport and we headed to the flower places and there were none that would match my wedding. I was upset and stressed, I had to find flowers, had a ton of money coming out of our wallets from every angle and didn’t want to spend a fortune. Chris’s mom suggested we go to a flower shop and get a quote. We went to Simply Flowers in Abbotsford and I got to hand-pick out each flowers and Chris’s mom ended up paying for my flowers! It honestly relieved so much stress. My girlfriend Emily is amazing at making flower arrangements so she came over and arranged my two bouquets and made Chris’s boutonniere, she even included some of Chris’s hockey tape in my bouquet. ** A funny fact is after our ceremony I had actually left these at our hotel in the restaurant and ended up phoning them and getting them held for me, but I was super worried I wouldn’t have my bouquet as a keepsake.**

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Picking a photographer for me was actually really hard. I wanted someone who would know how to work with Chris. Chris is someone who 1. hates pictures and 2. is super inpatient and gets grumpy. So I needed someone who would understand him and make it work and get good pictures. I contacted someone I knew would be good Michelle Cervo however she no longer does weddings – Bummer! On the hunt again, I made a post in the Facebook page looking for a photographer, contacted a bunch of them, and found Michele Mateus Photography, as soon as I spoke on the phone with Michele I knew she would be able to handle Chris and get me the pictures I wanted. I absolutely love our photos and our experience with Michele.

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The day had finally arrived, the family had come, the hall was decorated and the big day was here. It started off pretty mellow with me joining my mom and family for breakfast in Abbotsford and then heading home to meet Raichelle Ferris Make up . Soon after Alicia arrived to do our hair and the women slowly started trickling in. Chris’s mother in law and grandma had hair appointments at a salon nearby and Laura (MIL) got her make up done as well. Cierra from Raichelle Ferris make up did an amazing job, Chris has never complimented my make up and he was full of compliments on how good of a job she had done – he has always preferred the more natural no-make up look. Once everyone hair and make up was done I could feel the nerves coming, I was about to marry Chris, and I was so nervous!! I quickly fed our little guy and everyone but Mom, Pearce, and I left. Mom helped me get dressed and gifted me a pair of earings, I wore Chris’s mothers pearls (the ones his mom and sister had also wore in their weddings) and slipped into my lace dress and headed for the park.

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We arrived at the park about 30 mins late, Poor Chris. As soon as I got out I found my Dad who was wearing a suit, this may have been my first time seeing him in a suit. Seeing my Dad made the day feel real. Even though I have spent nearly half my life with this man, I was still school girl excited to marry him and start a new chapter. My mother took Pearce and placed him in a small John Deere wagon we borrowed from her friend and started to pull him to the end of the park to meet our adorable flower girl Alessandra.

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As I walked down the aisle I was extremely happy to not be walking alone, It was a long walk, and the nerves were strong. When I saw Chris I felt a huge emotion come over me, I felt safe and secure but also so overwhelmed that my dreams were finally coming true. I got my guy – forever! The ceremony went by quickly to me and we were soon taking family photos in the park. Once the family photos were done, Chris and I got pictures with Pearce and then it was time for just him and I love all the photos, Michele captured the wedding perfectly and I will cherish our photos forever, truly. I highly recommend Michele.

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After the ceremony we had about 40 minutes before we went to the reception so we dropped our car at the hotel, and waited for my mom to come and get us from the hotel. Then it was off to the reception, where my childhood best friend Tasha Hilborn was our MC. We opted to not have a photographer at the Reception as we wanted it to be fun, and informal and for people to be able to keep it as a memory for them and whatever pictures were taken, were taken by guests, so its super neat to see what people decided to take pictures of, most people were enjoying themselves and forgot! We had my Uncle Djing and I got a dance with my Dad and Chris. We cut our gorgeous cake baked by Chris’s sister (it was DELICIOUS) and even had speeches — mic drop —

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When I look back it truly was the perfect day. I am so thankful to all my family and friends who helped us make it happen! My Mom for her countless hours spent helping me plan, My sister for photographing and bartending, My Dad, My father in law Craig, My mother in law Laura, my sister-in-law Colette, to my close friends who gave up their time to help me craft, and cook, and set up. I’d also like to say a HUGE thank you to everyone who came. Some people traveled from as far as Ontario and Australia, and they made our day super special!! If your want more info on how to plan a wedding for under $10000 feel free to reach out and I can discuss prices more with you!

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A big thank you to my husband Chris, for marrying me, putting up with me and making each day of marriage entertaining! Here’s to a few decades more of this ❤

ps. scroll down for some pictures our friends shared from our special day 

 

xOx Chelsea 

 

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A fathers love

When I got pregnant, I was very unsure of how my husband would be as a father. We had been together for a long time but I had never really seen him around children. My father in law is a really easy-going guy, who doesn’t discuss his feelings or say I love you all the time, often conversations are ended with alright. Slowly each day I have watched my husband grow into this man. Hard on the edges but soft on the inside.

When our son was born, due to complications during childbirth he was taken to the NICU after I held him for only a photo. My husband followed him down and I will never forget rolling into the room being pushed by my mother to meet our son and his now father. Chris told me all of things he had of mine, and all of things he saw of himself in our son. Chris grew a new face that day, the face of a proud dad. One I had never seen him wear before.

To understand my husband is to swim an ocean, his depth is vast, and his thoughts are deep. So watching him as a father has been a journey I am just starting but loving. I have watched him learn so much in these 19 months, and watch him grow a lot! From laying skin to skin at the hospital to rolling on the ground with our 19 month old. It has been an incredible experience for us all!

When Pearce turned 1 years old we started to introduce cows milk, here and there as the pumping at work was not sufficient. It was at this time I started to see a change in my son and husband. Slowly as I became less important my husband became Pearce’s favourite thing.  Everything is Dada, when he gets upset he now hesitates to decide which parent to run to when before it was always mama. At times I feel I am losing my sweet boy, but watching their bond is something that is so incredibly rewarding for me.


If you knew Chris before Pearce you wouldn’t recognize him, he is a man woman dream of marrying and having children with. He plays with Pearce and will always bring him into bed to cuddle, he loves getting out Peas mini hockey set and playing in our living room with him. He enjoys watching Pearce try new foods and reading books together.

Chris is also such a good supporter in parenting, he lets me follow my mother intuition and when it comes to our son we never fight. We speak openly about how we want to raise him and surprisingly we often have the same plan before we even say it out loud. It’s also nice to have a great reminder for me to be my sons ambassador, not just his “mom”. It’s great to have a husband who is there on the hard days to be dad when mom just can’t mom.


But the moment I knew that all that worrying I had done before Pearce was born ended when Chris called me and told me our energetic, crazy child fell asleep next to him on the couch. Something we never thought he would do but also, something my dad and I often did when I was Pearce’s age. Pearce is so blessed for the man who is his father, the man who will teach him to skate and hold a stick, and throw baseballs, but most of all the man who will say alright, and together they will know it means I love you.

xOx Chelsea

 

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Happy Birthday to my Husband Chris <3

Today my husband turns 30, wow! Where did our 20s go! I met my husband when he was 20 years old, crazy, young, and pretty much the same guy as he is now but like good wine, I think he has gotten better with age!

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It’s incredible to think that 10 years ago we were just meeting and I was just falling head over heals. Since the day I met Chris there was always something about him. It was like subconsciously I knew I would marry him one day!


Our love story is long, messy, and a roller coaster but the best part is it’s still happening. Chris has always done his best to ensure that I don’t get bored. His hard exterior is just a show for his soft and lovable personality. I still can’t believe that I got him. I knew from the moment I met him that no man would ever compare and that I needed to have him in my life! I would share our story, but it’s somethings are best left shared between two people.

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So why write a blog about my husband? Well he is an incredibly hard-working man who supports our family, ensure we still have fun even when times are tough, and still remember to keep making me fall in love over and over. I think its important to take time and celebrate the people who we care about. The ones behind the scenes, and well 30 is kinda a big deal!


To many Chris is a great friend, always there to lend an ear, share a few drinks or hop on the ice and play a few games. To us he is a father, a husband, a friend, a lover and sometimes a second child. He is so many incredible things all in 1. He has more friends than I can even count and somehow he is able to maintain all his friendships. He pushes me to be a better version of myself, to keep my dreams and to always strive to succeed.


In the 10 years my husband has been in my life he has truly helped me overcome so many insecurities, obstacles and I can’t imagine going through them with anyone else! He is exactly what I always wanted in a partner and I only hope that I will be by his side for many more birthdays.


Christopher, happy birthday, may this year be a great year and may we keep making each other happy! I love you with all of me and I promise to try harder to fold all the socks. As long as you promise to never stop dancing, or having fun! 

xOx love you.

How I keep the magic alive 

To paint a picture for you, let me begin by telling you that tonight I am home with the baby, whose already asleep. Hubby is at hockey, the fire is burning, and a large glass of eggnog is waiting to be thoroughly enjoyed.So you know its gonna get sappy! Now let me begin.

Wait! Before I do:  to our family, I apologize in advance if you do not want to read about this I get it!

 

I listen to the local radio station on my drive to work and the other day while I was listening I heard that Carrie Underwood says she keeps the magic alive by giving 50% of herself to her husband and the other 50% of herself to her baby. But where does that leave herself? We all know that we must give time to ourselves in order to stay happy, healthy and grounded. So it made me think, just how much time do I give my husband. I could recollect each month of my child’s life and tell you how much I gave to him at certain points or I could simply tell you how I learnt the hard way that my husband needed more.

For 6 years my husband was the only man in my life. He was my first thought when I woke up and the last thing I thought about before bed. I know Cheesy but its going somewhere. I have dated other man, but with my husband there was something different. I crave him in a way that I had never imagined to ever feel. When he walks into a room there is a strong desire for him. So naturally when I got pregnant I worried, would this desire go away? Would my husbands desire for me go away as I carried our child.

To be perfectly honest it was a scary time for us, so much was changing. Sometimes it felt as if we were losing our freedom. Yes we so deeply wanted this baby but any parent will tell you. You will miss being able to run an errand in 15 mins, or not have to find a babysitter to go have a drink with friends, or be able to drop everything for a last minute trip. Yes you can TOTALLY still do all these things, but the fact is 90% of our friends aren’t there yet. They are still indulging in pre-kid life, which is awesome but their lifestyle doesn’t always mesh with ours.

We were both also scared about being parents, would we royally screw this kid up for life? There is so much pressure on parents to be amazing and to not screw your kid up. The weight of this weighed heavily on us both. My pregnancy wasn’t like the movies, we fought, we argued, my hormones ran heavy! But the strong desire for my husband remained. The closer we came to becoming parents the more the reality of our future made us bond and find our balance again.

When Pearce was born the doctor said it would be approximately 8 weeks before you should be intimate. 8 WEEKS, It seemed like eternity, but I figured hey its like we are dating again with a baby. We had to work at making time for one another and the most important thing to remember when you have a new baby is to continue to love your spouse.

Your spouse gave you that baby, whether she carried it or he gave you the gift of motherhood, Parenthood is done together whether romantically or not, it should therefor be treated with respect. As my body began to heal and I got into the groove of being a mother my partner made sure to make me feel loved. He did this by showing love in the way he does; gifts. He is all about the small stuff and its something I love about him. He brought me candy, or scratch and wins, he would make dinner or simply come home take the baby and go in another room to allow me time.

To you this may sound like life, but to me this is just how you show you care for one another. Now up above I told you that I learnt the hard way that I needed to create balance. Flash forward past the 8 weeks, and all of THAT stuff. My husband told me that he felt as if I no longer felt I needed to take care of him. Now we had dated for 6 years where he was my first thought, last thought and everything I desired. So for a man to go from that to coming after a baby is tough, I slacked on lunches, dinner making, making sure he had clean underwear. Your probably all thinking that my husband is a demanding man but he is not. He helps and he provides. But it was how he had become accustom too throughout the years of me showing I cared. Which I never thought about.

Of course we had our bedroom love, but I am talking about the love that makes it through the bad. It takes work, it is not something that you can neglect. Once I realized that I had not been showing him care in a way he had always recognized I understood why my husband was so upset over life with the new me. It wasn’t because he didn’t like fatherhood or like our new life, it was because he didn’t understand that I still loved him. So I gave more, I spent more time with my husband if I was exhausted and he was at hockey, I waited up for our nightly conversation about his game like I had done before the baby. I made his favorite meals which he had taught me how to cook. I asked for a kiss before he left, and when he got home. I reminded myself that just because I am a mom, does not mean that I lost the role of a wife.

We were married in July of this year and the day I married that man I vowed to always love him, to always put him first. Good or bad, he’s my husband and making sure that we are BOTH happy in our marriage is my priority as much as my children’s happiness. Understanding that just because you have a child doesn’t mean you stop putting your man first. You may think I sound like a old fashion woman and that its a two way street, but my husband never treated me different, he continued to give his affection how he always had. I am thankful everyday I spend married to that man, he challenges me and pushes me and makes me feel whole. He loves me as the mother of his child as he did as the woman he loved before our son.

I make an effort now to love my husband in all the ways I did before children, by being spontaneous like before, making sure he knows he is loved. As for Carrie Underwood I would say I am still not giving either of them 50/50 but its about 45 baby, 30 husband, 25 me, I am not perfect I’m still figuring this whole motherhood, wife stuff out. But I think you must take care of yourself and be happy in order to enjoy, share and give to others as a happy individual. If you feel as though your spouse may be feeling a little down and not as loved, Get naked put on a robe, and go love them ❤