Crib to Toddler Bed

From the moment I felt the first movements of Pearce inside my belly, I knew I was going to have a child as wild and crazy as his father. He was always moving and super crazy when I was pregnant. Once Pearce was born and we had discovered that we had a boy, I knew he was going to be just like his Dad. This is where my story will begin.

When I started dating Chris his mother, father and grandparents had told me a bunch of stories about how he was an escape artist, always getting out of bed and going outside to play in the middle of the night, or having to be tied to the tree when camping because he would run away. Well when Pearce was born he was just as eager to get on the move. He rolled over at 7 weeks, started crawling and 5 months and walking at 10 months. Basically since he could walk he could climb, it has been many months of owies, bruises, and little cuts all because our son is always moving faster than he can prepare for.

A little over a month ago it was nap time and Daddy had a few of Pearce’s favorite friends over and Pearce didn’t want to nap, I put him in his crib and he climbed out immediately. This happened about 4 times before we decided okay its time to change his crib into the toddler bed. Pearce had escaped once or twice before this when he had woken from a nap but never like this. So Daddy and his friends adjusted his crib into the toddler bed. We attempted nap time again by putting Pearce in his bed and he climbed out and cried by the door, he ended up falling asleep by the door after about 20 mins and then I went in and moved him into his bed.

For the rest of the week we kept Pearce up a little later at night so that when we would put him in his bed he would be tired. Bed time was a success and nap times got much better. After a month I can gladly say we have only had him fall asleep by the door 2 maybe 3 times and he has gotten into a few things. Yesterday he woke up from his nap while I was in the shower and when I grabbed him all of the diapers were all over his room, he sat there pulling them out individually from the plastic.

For being so good at sleeping in his bed for the month I took Pearce to the book store, for him this is much more exciting than the toy store. Pearce picked out 1 book, much to my surprise he picked out a paper back book, it was the a golden book version of Moana, and for the last few weeks he has slept every night cuddling his Moana book. While we were away in Kelowna Moana hugely helped us get through our 7.5 hour drive home while the Coquihalla was closed.


I have a few tips for parents transferring to toddler bed:

  1. Make the bedroom safe, if your child can get out of their bed they can also touch everything in their bedroom so do a quick check to ensure its all safe!
  2. Be prepared to have them sleep by the door a few times to get the hang of things
  3. Putting your kid to bed when they are more tired will keep them from getting out of their bed.
  4. Ensure you have a guard rail, if your waiting for one to come in the mail, grab a large pillow and place it under a blanket and lay your child on top of the blanket.
  5. You may also find them sitting in their bed while you make dinner reading a book — this will melt your heart!

I promise to share all the details of Kelowna, our Air B and B stay, the winery, the restaurants and all about Chris’s hockey tournament on an upcoming blog!

Happy Mothers Day

I knew for Mother’s Day I wanted to write a special blog. In my life I am surrounded by many amazing mothers. I have my own mother who is my best friend, my rock – basically my first call for everything. Then I have my mother in law, an amazing woman who I have gotten to know over the 10 years I have been with her son and whom has taught me many important things; how to love her son, how to knit (I am not very good), and how to show unconditional love from a distant place. Then I have my Step Mom, who is a strong, caring woman who takes very good care of my dad, and who brought with her 2 amazing men with their own families. Most recently we also had Chris’s dad re-marry and I was given a Step-Mother in law, who brought with her a son and who has helped my father in law make more time for himself and his family (He has always been a crazy workaholic). Plus I have a sister and sister-in-law who are amazing mothers, grand mothers, grandmother in-laws and many friends who are also great moms!

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I am truly blessed by my surroundings, all the mothers in my life are strong, caring, and who are always there to lend an ear, to share some advice and to simply let me vent. This blog is going to be all about the mom’s who influence me the most – my moms. I will start with my own Mother — Felisa Craig, known to most as Lisa. For as long as I can remember I wanted to be my Mom. I would have all my friends over and play “office” and I was Lisa the Successful real estate agent who had 4 kids and who could do it all. That’s who my mom is, the one who does it all; She puts food on the table, she worked long hours, made sure all the bills were paid and that we all had new clothes, shoes that fit and all the permission slips were signed. Four kids is no easy task, I struggle daily with just 1. There were so many things I wanted to ask my Mom about being a mother, So here goes :

  1. What were your biggest fears when you were about to become a mom?
    Whether I would do a good job, having all the little voices in the background telling me how I should do it — if I didn’t listen would it be okay?
  2. What was the biggest challenge for you being a mom?
    Having enough time for each kid. 
  3. If you could freeze time and go back to an age with each of your children what age would you choose?
    Under 3, best time, best giggles. 
  4. While raising your children what was your favourite thing to do in our absence?
    Enjoy the silence – it was rare. 
  5. What advice do you give expecting mothers?
    Do not wish for the milestones, they will come, just enjoy each day. Don’t compare your children to others or books, no 2 children are the same. 
  6. If you could go back and change anything what would it be?
    Allow my children to follow their passions and not what we wanted of them
  7. What was the experience like becoming Nana?
    Amazing, overwhelming, gratifying that one of your children gave you a precious gift to share with you.
  8. What is the best part about being Nana?
    Love the hugs, the kisses, the giggles, each one is a gift from someone who you love, who gave you something new to love back.

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When I was a kid, my favorite memories are of all my family together, whether it be sitting at the table on Sunday with our friends who had slept over, or just the family. Mom making her special pancakes, Dad entertaining everyone with the story of how they met. Or going to Stanley park, and Gastown, walking around going to the old spaghetti factory, and going to the CD shop and getting a new CD. My parents always did their best to give us their full attention, they didn’t talk about work or talk about politics, they talked to us about our week, or our challenges. This is something that I know is a struggle for my husband and I as there is so many more distractions now than there was then. I am thankful for the childhood to which my parents gave me. I am thankful for the memories. It’s funny because reading my Mom’s answers I really feel like her struggles like having enough time are what holds me back most about having more, Will there be enough time for more? But my parents always gave us time and though the time alone with our parents wasn’t as often it was deeply cherished. I am so thankful for my Mom, I can’t imagine my life without her. She is truly the strongest woman I know, determined and methodical, with always more to give.

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Next Mrs Laura Vaughn, My mother in law. Where do I begin? Laura lives in Ontario so we do not see each other too often but we talk at least a few times a week. I think seeing my husband and my mother in law together is what made me know I would love being a mother to a boy. The bond seems to never go away. My husband and is mother have a strange bond and I am sure it leads back to the hockey rink, he has an intense desire to not let his mother down and to make her proud. Each thing he does he calls his mom to tell her about. At first I didn’t understand their bond, I often thought maybe it’s because she’s far away. Then Pearce was born and I understood it, he’s her little boy, her first-born. I imagine I will be the same, always holding on to my little boy.  Laura is a strong woman who works incredibly hard, her two children live in BC so she is constantly making trips out here, or bringing us out there, spoiling us with presents and sending a card for each occasion. She never forgets a birthday, a housewarming, an anniversary, there is always a card in the mail. Laura and I are very alike in that way, very thoughtful. When I married her son this summer, Laura was meticulous about the details, she made our invitations, our programs, our wine labels. She kept me on track with all of the tasks sending me reminders. Then when she came to town, she took me to a florist and she bought me the flowers for my bouquet. When your planning a small wedding these things seem pointless or they did to me, I thought why waste money on flowers, they just die. But the truth is I will probably keep my bouquet forever and Laura knew this. Laura is like me in that all the small details matter, when you go to visit you have a basket of toiletries, from the luffa, to the travel deodorant. I asked Laura the same questions I asked my mom knowing that these questions would bring us closer and give others some understanding of what the mom’s before us thought.

  1. What were your biggest fears when you were about to become a mom?
    I never feared becoming a mother, I feared doing the job properly and childbirth. 
  2. What has been the biggest challenge being a mother?
    I was extremely lucky when I had both my children that I could either take them to work or stay home with them till they went to school. When my son was born I had to balance keeping him quiet and entertained as my husband was a short-haul truck driver and worked odd hours. When my daughter was born my biggest challenge was trying to juggle my time and love between the two  of them.
  3. If you could freeze time at any age for your little ones which age would you choose?
    Frozen 4 and 2 and living in Ontario surrounded by love of a very large extended family. I still look back at this time and consider it the best time of my life. 
  4. What challenges have you encountered while raising your children?
    My biggest challenge raising my kids was being in BC away from my family. In a time with no social media, crazy long distance prices. This was a very hard adjustment. 
  5. If your children were to name something you say often what would it be?
    I need a coffee
  6. When raising your children what was your favorite thing to do in their absence?
    reading a novel or a good soak in the tub
  7. What advice do you give expecting mothers?
    Read everything you can, take advice as it is given and forget it all. No one person is right, no one is wrong. Only you know your child, Trusts your instincts but remember the advice givers mean well. 
  8. Seeing your children now as adults what things are you most proud of that you did to help them become the person they are today?
    I am very proud of how strong and independent my children are. When they were growing up we allowed them to make decisions for themselves. We felt we provided them with the tools to make the right decisions. They did make some wrong decisions along the way and we never punished them per say, but gave them support they needed to turn things around. 
  9. What was the experience like becoming Grandma?
    I have never in my lifer been so emotional as I was when my grandchildren were born. Each experience very different. I refused to leave my Daughter when she was in labor and spent every minute waiting and worrying. When young Sawyer debuted I was overcome with tears of joy and exhaustion. Worried for Colette, There is nothing more upsetting than knowing your child is in pain and you can do nothing to help. When my son’s son was born earlier than planned I missed all the text messages because of the time difference. I woke up to 30+ messages and I cried my eyes out for the fact that I wasn’t there when he needed me to be. And also for missing one of the biggest moments of his life. My daughter is due with her second and I am sure it will be very different as well 
    ** since this was written Sadie May Clarke was born and was 3 days early, Laura also  missed the birth of Miss Sadie who came very quickly. Colette did an amazing job giving birth after arriving at the hospital only 1 hour before. We couldn’t be happier to have our first niece** 
  10. How do you feel about being a grandma?
    I love being a Grandma almost as much as being a mom. My children and grandchildren are my world. I love watching them grow before my eyes and I see so much of my children in my grandchildren. I wish I was closer so I could be more involved. Maybe one day!

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When I first met Laura, She called me and told me she had searched my entire Facebook page, (I will probably do the same to any girl in Pearce’s life) and that she wanted to meet me. It wouldn’t be for a few years till we met. But Laura was very welcoming of me, we have shared many memories over the years, from me helping Laura get dressed in her wedding dress at her wedding, to decorating the hall for Chris and My wedding. Laura’s is a loving and expressive mother. I see so much of me in Laura and I know that’s why Chris loves me. I know that Laura is always only a call away for us and I know we are incredibly blessed to have such amazing mothers in our life.

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Our two steps mom are also amazing mothers, amazing cooks, and always make us feel very welcome in their home. They take the time to stay up to date on our life, and to make our dad’s extremely happy. Chris and I are blessed to have so many people in our lives who love us and love our children as their own grandchildren. Mother’s day isn’t just for our moms, it’s for our step moms, for our all the other moms.

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I want to take a moment to tell all the mothers who have lost a child, no matter the circumstances that just because your child is no longer with us, doesn’t mean you should not celebrate today, You were a mother the day your child was conceived, whether you never met your child, you spent a few days together or you had years. You were a mother, you are a mother, and your incredibly strong, empowering and I have so much respect and admiration for you and all that you have gone through. Remember that we think about you, we celebrate you as well today. Happy Mother’s day. This video was shared by Today’s Parent, I urge you to watch it so that you can better understand what these mothers go through.

 

To lighten the mood, I will also share a video about what us mothers are looking for this Mother’s Day. I hope you all have a fantastic day, remember that today is all about your love for your child and the incredible things you do for them. May today be a day for you. Video By Whats Up Mom’s

xOx Chelsea

Easter Weekend Recap!

Something about Holidays always gets me really excited to make the experience great for Pearce. I remember being a child and my parents hiding our baskets and little eggs all over the house for us to find. We would have breakfast, get dressed in cute little dresses and go searching all over the house to find our Easter treats.

Easter weekend was nothing short of memories for us. On Thursday night Chris had to work late so it was just Pearce and I. These moments when I get him all to myself for a night are always very enjoyable for me as I have never liked sharing. Pearce was pretty tired from Daycare on Friday, so I made one of his favorite meals – Spaghetti with red sauce. After we both enjoyed dinner we played for a bit then it was time for bath. Pearce has loved playing in the bath the last few weeks – most parents know children go through phases of loving bath time and hating it. Lately we have been playing a new game during bath time, our bathroom has a dimmer so we dim the lights, and I crack open a few glow sticks, the tub is filled with bubbles and I toss the glow sticks in. Once all the glow sticks have been thrown in Pearce digs through the bubbles and finds the glow sticks. After bath we got in our jammies and Chris asked if I could keep Pearce up to see him, So we went downstairs and cuddled on the couch and watched Beauty and the beast, both of us fell asleep before Daddy got home and this moment for me I will cherish for 2 reasons. 1. Pearce has never fallen asleep with me since he was 6 months old. 2. This was my favorite childhood movie and I absolutely love that he enjoys it and we can watch it together like I had with my mom.


Friday Morning we took Pearce to Maan Farms, it was an amazing time!! We had our friends the Emersons meet us and my sister Laken and nephew Declan. Maan Farms was an absolute hit! The kids loved it, from the super fast slides, to the petting zoo, the Easter egg hunt, the giant bouncing pillow (I think this was all their favorite), to the pedal car races. We all had a great time, looking for the golden egg and feeding the goats, Pea absolutely loved the tiny chickens they had in the pen above the rabbits. Maan Farms put together a great Easter Weekend package. They had continuous easter egg hunts going from 11 – 3pm all 4 days. Each child had to find 5 different colored eggs and then they got a bag of candy with a discounted admission pass for their next visit! Watching Pearce experience the farm was a ton of fun! It will definitely be a stop for us again in the future, maybe even a birthday party?


After the farm we went for lunch at our favorite pizza place in Abbotsford, Famoso Pizza. Each time we go we like to order a few different flavors and then share them with the crowd. Each time we have been whether they are really busy or steady we always receive amazing service and the food and drinks are delicious. I highly recommend the korean BBQ pizza.  Then we got home and mom picked up Pearce for their sleepover and Mommy and Daddy went out for a night on the town. Eating at a great little restaurant downtown called the Union – I recommend trying their wings, street hawker that were amazing! Then off to a concert with friends.


Saturday was super mellow, we were all so tired from the busy Friday. Pearce even had a 4 hour nap, too much for that little guy! I ended up staying up really late and finishing 13 reasons why – what an amazing show. For so many reasons I really enjoyed this show, I think this was the first show to really show what highschool can really be like. I mean this in the interactions between kids, the interactions between faculty and kids and the interaction between parents and kids. Some parents have so much love and faith in their children being good people, they stop interacting with their child – to the point where some kids don’t know what their children are capable of. BUT boy does this show end with a TON of questions. Hopefully netflix can take this project on past what the author has been willing to do and create a second season.


Sunday was another very busy day, we ended up sleeping in till 9:30!!! Which is pretty amazing in parent life. We waited for Daddy to wake up then we took Pearce downstairs for a little Easter Egg hunt around the house leading him to his Easter basket, filled with books, coloring books, a few little toys and play dough. Then it was time to get ready and go meet My husband’s family for lunch. My father in law took the ferry over to meet us for Easter Lunch. So it was My father in law, his wife, her son, my husbands sisters, her husband, my nephew and the three of us! We ended up going to the Tsawwassen mills mall to meet as my father in law forget we only have a 5 seater! So we checked out the Bass Pro shop which we have been wanting to do for a while. Pearce absolutely lovesssssss all the taxidermy animals and the huge fish tank. We even got a free picture with the Easter Bunny, whom gave us a free kids meal to the restaurant Uncle Bucks. After cruising around bass pro shop we went to Uncle Buck’s fish bowl and grill, everyone loved their food mine was sub par and the waitress was strangely uninterested in doing anything extra for me such as making a weak chocolate milk for Pearce, or making any changes to my burger and actually told me to pick off what I didn’t like. I have never had that happen before – it was still a very fun lunch. My husband recommends trying the fish and chips as you get four LARGE pieces which is uncommon.


After lunch we said our goodbyes to Chris’s family and stopped at Pearce’s Nonna and Nonnos aka Chris’s good friend Natalino’s parents place we try to stop and see them whenever we are in New West as they are very dear to us and we consider them Pearce’s other grandparents. They spoiled us with chocolates and we got to catch up and see everyone, Pearce was spoilt with chocolate and grapes which he likes more than chocolate. Then it was off to my moms for a nice Easter dinner of delicious Ham, and all the desired fixings. After dinner we played board games with Declan and Pearce and nanna watched storks. After which I was very exhausted and came home to prepare for work. Unlike most other BC residents I had to work the Monday because in my job I actually work for our Alberta part of the company out of our Coquitlam office, therefor i have to take their holidays. Chris and Pearce had a fun day together on Monday and got in some extra bonding time.


When I think about the age of which I have really enjoyed Pearce, I think right now is my favorite, he is so fun and adventurous. He loves looking at books and playing in puddles, brushing his teeth and playing in mommy and daddy’s room. This age is so fun and so busy it almost takes away any baby fever I may have. This Easter I think was as fun as it was because of the age that Pearce is, able to participate and still be young enough that I could fill his Easter basket in front of him.


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xOx Chelsea

Breaking the Habit

I had a pretty happy childhood. The second eldest of four children. It was a lot of work for my mom and dad. They both worked full-time jobs and did stuff on the side. Their lives were extremely busy. Did I mention they had four kids?

When I think about my childhood I don’t have bad memories. I have memories of playing in my back yard in the pool with the neighborhood kids and my siblings. Family day trips to Gastown and Stanley Park. Running around outside and getting dirty. A childhood most people dream their children to have. But I also remember always having to do my chores, ensuring they were done by 5:30 when Dad got home from work. My sister was often the “mom” around the house till mom got home around 6:30-7, telling us kids what to do, dividing the chores up and making sure our younger siblings helped out. With that many kids our house was loud, it was fun but it was strict. My parents as I have previously mentioned in previous blogs were “yellers”.

Dad would round us kids up on Saturday morning for us to get our chores done while Mom was off hosting open houses or helping families find their dream home. When Dad came home and chores weren’t done we would all be scrambling around the house getting them done while dad yelled and Uncle Davey made dinner. I know now this is how my Dad was raised in a house with 8 kids I KNOW my grandparents must have yelled. I have no grudges towards how I was raised or how my parents treated me — AT ALL! But I do see how yelling now makes me feel. When I am yelled at a trigger in my brain goes off; I immediately get upset, get defensive and get super emotional.

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But here is where my story begins; I catch myself all the time, raising my voice at my son. Now when I am discussing yelling I mean yelling “No”, or raising my voice when I don’t necessarily need to. I need to stop this, My son is just starting to really push boundaries and test me. So I know better than anyone that I need to grab this habit by the reigns and get a hold of it. But how? I have been reading so much about how to talk to a toddler, and how to control your frustrations. But how do you get rid of a habit that has been passed down generations?

I realize that some parents parent in this manner I have nothing against it, I just feel so sick when I am yelled at and I can’t grasp why I am yelling at my son. I know it happens most when I am frustrated. Hold on, I need to stop and explain I am not yelling super loud or getting crazy or harming my child, but I do raise my voice more often than I want to. I want to be able to speak to my son and respect him, be his #1 ambassador. I want to take no shit but not raise my voice so much. I feel like now is the time to grab a hold of this habit before he gets older and crazier and I decide its a good idea to have another.

This is one of my most insecure feelings as a mother. Since becoming a Mom I have never felt more in my own skin, more secure, more happy. I just want to be the best mother for my son. So I am reaching out to fellow mothers. What do you do when you get overwhelmed? How do you stop yourself from raising your voice? Also.. am I alone in this world where you have a habit and you feel like the worst person in the world for it? I hope that I have explained myself right for people to understand what I mean.

My son has been sleeping so crappy the last few weeks, My husband and I are literally running on 2-4 hours a night of sleep some days and I know my little monster is just having a really rough go with getting all 4 two year molars early. So I am little bit more irritable that I wish.. But how do I nip this habit in the butt? I am going to continue to read my book “Happiest Toddler on the Block” and just get back to taking time for myself so I can hopefully feel a little less stress.

Anyways I have finished ranting about my parenting failure. Let me know if I am not alone, because I feel like I need to hear someone else’s struggle, to give me sanity. Being a mom is tough, its the hardest job I have ever had but oh gosh is it not the most rewarding.

PS. I have got some really exciting stuff coming up, I am going to be featuring some local vendors, Going to be doing some Easter Weekend Recaps from Pearce’s First Easter Egg hunt. So Stay tuned lots of fun stuff coming up for April.

xOx Chelsea 

10 Things that not very many people know about me! 

I felt like I have been so open in this process of running a blog, that I would share things that I don’t usually share with people a lot of which I am insecure about. Maybe this process will allow me to gain strength from sharing but also show you that if we share our insecurities we aren’t alone.

1.  I have 4 tattoos.


My first I got when I was 19, and I felt I had truly found freedom in who in myself. When I was 15 years old I started dating a guy who really took over my life, he was older and my life turned into a constant battle to fit into his world, and be who he wanted me to be while undergoing a tremendous amount of hurt, So this felt like a decision I made solely on my own and didn’t need to discuss with anyone and that I could enjoy all my own. — Live Love Laugh, in japanese on my wrist


My second was my Leo symbol behind my ear. Everything I have ever read about my sign is so true about me, I feel a very deep connection with my astrology sign and very much enjoy reading about it. I should mention it resembles the Lulu lemon symbol… so It’s a constant joke for people to bug me about.


My third I got when I lost a very close friend of mine, she had a peace sign heart on her ankle so I wanted something to feel near to her, I got the same peace sign heart with wings and her name above it. She came at a time when I needed a friend and when I need someone to teach me my self-worth. Which she did, she made me stronger, wiser and over all gave me the ability to respect myself again.

My fourth I got when I went to Vegas with my mom, I really wanted Namaste on my finger however Hart and Huntington refused to do it, So I got it on the back of my neck. Namaste means I bow to you with my true self. At the time I got this I was 25, and I felt that I was who I would be for the rest of my life and this still stands true. I feel I am exactly who I should be and don’t ever question myself.


2. I love being alone! I thrive in the tranquility of the silence in my home. I am married to an incredibly busy man, a man who thrives while playing on 3 hockey teams, doing side jobs and spending time  with friends… me I thrive just being at home, on the couch, with my tv show or a book, the fire on and my Chihuahuas cuddling. I often find when people are around too much I get extremely agitated and the volcano inside explodes.

3. I am a bottler. Your probably wondering what that means — here goes, I bottle up all my feelings till one day the bottle is shaken just a little too hard and you decide to open it and well your out of luck because that bottle is now giving it to you left, right and sideways!!! It’s an unfortunate trait, but I’m not alone. I do my best to try to express myself, but sometimes the bottle still explodes.


4. I recently seem to have found myself in an internal struggle with my weight. Before my son I lost 28 lbs and worked hard to do so! But after I had my son — giving birth is so liberating and I had lost 90% of the weight I just got comfortable. But now I am finally ready to start the journey to getting fit again and spending more time on myself! Something I never wanted to do before because I felt guilty going to the gym and not spending the few hours a week I have with my son! But my itch to get fit is back — hopefully I can scratch it! 

5. A struggle that I find a lot is that my husband is an extremely popular guy. When we go out with his friends I often feel extremely insecure and out-of-place, sometimes this feeling overwhelms me and I end up heading home early. I should note my husband does his best to include me, but my insecurities still make me feel this way 

6. Before I met my husband I could not cook! He has taught me 70% of all things I know how to do the rest was calling my mom and learning over the phone or cook books. I’m blessed with an amazing cook for a husband! I now love to cook and bake! 


7. I have a huge struggle with eye contact, I have really tried to deep dive into this the past few years and I find it happens with people I am most self-conscious and insecure around. I’m pretty thankful for my sons godfather for really pushing me to work on this aspect I am much more aware! But it is still a daily struggle that I am hugely insecure about. This is probably one I get the most insecure about in social settings. 


8. I am extremely insecure of 90% of my friendships with people and often over analyze and wonder if they truly like me. Most of my pain has come from betrayal in friendships, so this makes me extremely hesitant with new friendships. This is probably why all of my dearest friends are also my longest! 

9. I am incredibly scared of divorce. I found my person and everyday I am terrified of divorce. I know we have an incredible bond, a bond that is indescribable. I love him more than words can express and it’s not just love it’s a devotion and desire that nothing in my life has ever compared to, but marriage these days seems like your treading water in an ocean trying to not drown.. when the waters freezing, and everyone else seems to let it take them.. ( I don’t mean any offense to anyone who has taken this route, I realize how incredibly hard it is and that every love story is different). I know in my heart that my desire for my husband will never go away. He walks into a room and I still get butterflies and just can’t wait for him to be near me. Hopefully we can make it through the ocean. 


10. I am a bitch. If I feel hurt by you watch out because you have just lit the fire under my ass to attack the shit out of you. I cannot help it, I am my mothers daughter. I am very bad for saying really mean things when I am mad. 99% of the time I feel they weren’t warranted.

I hope this gave you all a little bit more knowledge of who I am, and maybe you relate on some? Or have advice on how I can better myself? Or maybe you just have comforting words about my horrible traits lol. Either way. Thank you for reading! Ps… It was hard to find pictures without my son or dog babies..


xOx Chelsea

A fathers love

When I got pregnant, I was very unsure of how my husband would be as a father. We had been together for a long time but I had never really seen him around children. My father in law is a really easy-going guy, who doesn’t discuss his feelings or say I love you all the time, often conversations are ended with alright. Slowly each day I have watched my husband grow into this man. Hard on the edges but soft on the inside.

When our son was born, due to complications during childbirth he was taken to the NICU after I held him for only a photo. My husband followed him down and I will never forget rolling into the room being pushed by my mother to meet our son and his now father. Chris told me all of things he had of mine, and all of things he saw of himself in our son. Chris grew a new face that day, the face of a proud dad. One I had never seen him wear before.

To understand my husband is to swim an ocean, his depth is vast, and his thoughts are deep. So watching him as a father has been a journey I am just starting but loving. I have watched him learn so much in these 19 months, and watch him grow a lot! From laying skin to skin at the hospital to rolling on the ground with our 19 month old. It has been an incredible experience for us all!

When Pearce turned 1 years old we started to introduce cows milk, here and there as the pumping at work was not sufficient. It was at this time I started to see a change in my son and husband. Slowly as I became less important my husband became Pearce’s favourite thing.  Everything is Dada, when he gets upset he now hesitates to decide which parent to run to when before it was always mama. At times I feel I am losing my sweet boy, but watching their bond is something that is so incredibly rewarding for me.


If you knew Chris before Pearce you wouldn’t recognize him, he is a man woman dream of marrying and having children with. He plays with Pearce and will always bring him into bed to cuddle, he loves getting out Peas mini hockey set and playing in our living room with him. He enjoys watching Pearce try new foods and reading books together.

Chris is also such a good supporter in parenting, he lets me follow my mother intuition and when it comes to our son we never fight. We speak openly about how we want to raise him and surprisingly we often have the same plan before we even say it out loud. It’s also nice to have a great reminder for me to be my sons ambassador, not just his “mom”. It’s great to have a husband who is there on the hard days to be dad when mom just can’t mom.


But the moment I knew that all that worrying I had done before Pearce was born ended when Chris called me and told me our energetic, crazy child fell asleep next to him on the couch. Something we never thought he would do but also, something my dad and I often did when I was Pearce’s age. Pearce is so blessed for the man who is his father, the man who will teach him to skate and hold a stick, and throw baseballs, but most of all the man who will say alright, and together they will know it means I love you.

xOx Chelsea

 

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How I built my Mom Squad

When I announced my pregnancy on Facebook – (my husband thought it was a silly thing to do) – We had very few friends who had children. I had a few girlfriends message me that they were pregnant and keeping it quiet still, and I had a few girlfriends who had already announced.

So I was blessed in the fact that I had people to talk to about this, some of these people only had me. These people became my safe place, a place for me to go to with my concerns, my insecurities and my anxiety about motherhood, pregnancy and everything in between. For me it made my pregnancy experience so much better, sometimes in pregnancy your feelings aren’t all wonderful beautiful thoughts. Sometimes your scared and overwhelmed and knowing someone is going through that with you is probably the most reassuring and settling feeling you can feel.

When my son Pearce was born we lived in New Westminster with my father in law as we searched for our first home. I have never felt so alone, secluded and overwhelmed in my life. Don’t get me wrong I have a loving partner, my husbands family came to stay when our son was first born, but at the time my car was broken down, we lent our car to the family visiting and I was so far away from my family and friends. The Fraser Valley is a weird place, people don’t tend to venture from mission to Vancouver or new west regularly so I didn’t have many visitors. So I reached out to my support system I had created through social media and it really got me through those first 3 months with Pearce in New West until we moved. 

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It was during this time, I created my network, my support system my mom village, The Squad. My mommy group was vast, it was widely distributed and it grew really quickly. I am not sure if it was the age I had reached in life, how small my home town was, or maybe something in the water but everyone I knew started to have babies. But it seemed we all connected through this new stage together!  I often talked to moms, had them ask me a question and then I would message other moms for answers or vice versus. Finally I thought why not make a Facebook group where we can all talk privately about our concerns, in a respectful manner and bond with each other. I started “From 1 Mom 2 Another” Its a private group on Facebook that you have to be added into (this makes it so that outside members can not see and giving privacy to moms and allowing them to be open and honest!) I started by adding 25 of my mom friends, that I already knew, met at the hospital, met through friends and then they added their friends – I am sure people have left feeling the group gives them nothing – But we currently have 193 members and I lean on these people for more than they know.

This group is my strength on a hard day, my high five on a good day and my back bone when I feel weak. I don’t know what I would do without this support system, there is something about listening to a voice of someone going through the same thing at this moment that is so much more comforting then advice from people who did it years past sometimes.

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While I was on Maternity leave many of the moms were also on leave, so we planned a few outings to meet one another and put some faces to the names. Our first few outings were just the ducky swims in mission. Then we did a few walks in the lower mainland with babies and dogs. A few us even had a few wine nights at each others houses where we brought food and our tiny toed kiddos and talked and played games until Mom bed time – Aka approx 10 pm.

In this group, I have seen kindness in a world where kindness feels rare. I have watched Mothers build their small business and be able to stay home and provide for their family. I have watched mothers on their weight loss journey. I have gotten a million ideas on how to be a better mother to my child. But most importantly, the Mom Squad I am surrounded by has been there for me when I felt nobody else was, or could be.

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If you are a mother and wish to be a part of this group, please message me so that we can add you to our squad/village of mothers.

xOx Chelsea 

Dancing on the edge of Sanity

Well the title of this blog truly says it all. The past week has felt like I’m dancing on the edge of my sanity. Being a mom to a toddler is so hard!

It has been emotionally draining. I won’t share too much details about it just because I feel the details are irrelevant – you can relate without them!

There are points in every parents life where so much is going on and you have reached your threshold for stress. Then your child decides to go through a sleep regression and you’re getting A LOT less sleep and the world might collapse on top of you! That is my week.

To say it’s been trying is an understatement! This morning I reached the point where I just couldn’t take it anymore I had to just walk away. That moment was so hard for me, since Pearce was born I have always felt a tremendous pressure to be the perfect mom (I’m sure some of you can relate)! But it’s hard and being a parent really requires you to be at your best and when you’re not it’s important to recognize it and get help. For me admitting that I need help has always been hard in most things in life, but especially as a mom I always want to  be a pro and not need help. This morning I think I loved my husband just a little bit more he noticed I was breaking and got up took our son downstairs and took control of the situation for me and I was incredibly grateful.

I spent the day enjoying Pearce just a little bit more and feeling like I could handle the crazy antics of my wild 18 month old! Somehow I had let all this stress and all this pressure of being perfect really hinder my happiness and patience with my child.

Chris and I are blessed to have a lot of friends with toddlers and I love watching how they handle situations and deal with the tough times. You always hear how hard toddlers are and I wanted to prepare for the terrible two’s so I have been reading “The Happiest Toddler on the Block” – this book has really allowed me to better understand where my frustrations with Pearce lie. The book describes that when you are frustrated with your child that you toddler is bringing forth a memory from your past in which you felt the same way and that is why you react in a frustrated, overwhelmed manner. So when I get this way I have been trying to recognize, how I am feeling, What time in my history would make me feel this way. This has allowed me to be more patient and understanding however sometimes it is still really hard. I have really struggled with this sleep regression we are facing at the 18 month point while dealing with all of the other stresses life has to offer.

This blog I just wanted to recognize that not everyday as a toddlers mom is perfect and that help is truly needed sometimes. Having had that help I got a couple extra hours of sleep and ended up having a much better day with Pearce. I was more patient and less stressed. Hopefully in the future I can let the pressures of motherhood move aside and voice to my husband that I may need a little bit more help because I am not perfect! I realize I am not alone and that there are probably many of you out there feeling this way. Being a mom is not easy, it is the toughest job I have ever had, but it’s also the only job that I feel has given me true purpose in life.

I also wanted to note that its okay to never share your struggles, but to know that if you need to I am here. Feel free to reach out about any parenting struggles or share them in the comments. Maybe hearing your stories will put my mind at ease.

xOx

p.s. The New Blog day is Saturdays! So you can expect to see new posts on Saturdays from now on! Thanks for reading ❤

6 Things to save a mombie from the apocalypse of motherhood 

This week has been, rough to say the least! My almost 18month old has been having a rough go with sleeping, we just got over being sick and it seems like the overwhelming feeling of exhaustion and stress are taking over my mombie body! (Mombie = zombie mom) so I have been doing a few things that always make me feel better on a run down week, which I thought I would share because it can be extremely hard sometimes being a mombie!

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1. Wash your face in the morning and at night with a hot wash cloth!
I recently started this one when I read how good it made people feel and how it was also a celebrity skin secret! The truth is I have had such a rough week, that I probably spend 10 minutes washing my face with the hot wash cloth and it’s almost just nice to spend 10 minutes not thinking and just feeling the warmth on my face! After I feel clean, refreshed and a little stronger!

2. 10 push ups & good stretching before bed. 
A) So the push ups really started when I lost a tremendous amount of weight a few years ago and went from not being able to do 1 push up to being able to do quite a bit! So when I got pregnant I never wanted to lose my ability to do push ups so I did 10 before bed and when I got to big I did angled wall push ups and this really just made me feel strong and accomplished. Something about being able to do a mans push up makes me feel like I can take on anything!

B) Stretches before bed well, for me sleep is everything! I often joke that if I dream about lunges it means I worked out? Haha well why I think it’s important to stretch before bed is that sleep is incredibly important for functioning. Your body needs good rest, the day has been long, and hard and you need to unwind. After a work out you stretch to unwind, relax your muscle. Before a work out you stretch to loosen things up and prepare for your workout. Think about it this way sleep is your workout and you must prepare! Try a few stretches maybe add one each night, I really like to touch my toes, stretch my arms out backwards, reach as high as I can side to side… I find on nights I stretch I sleep a little better!

3. Read a book! 
Something about reading has always relaxed me, takes me to a place outside of my problems and allows me to just go somewhere else. Staring at a tv can be exhausting on your eyes, and if your like me your brain can feel overloaded after a day spent on the computer. I am reading a few books right now that I am really enjoying, I spend my nights when Pearce has his night time snack reading “The Happiest Toddler on the Block – Harvey Karp M.D.” Which I am learning so much from and am spending so much more time analyzing my frustrations in a more positive way! when I read on my lunch and before bed I am totally sucked into “the Girl in Cabin 10 – Ruth Ware” its incredibly suspenseful!

4. Get outside! 
My days our spent inside on a computer screen so by the time I get home I feel mentally drained like technology has sucked me dry! So I find if I don’t get outside my mood is like sink into the couch! But if I go outside even just to walk my two crazy dogs, or take sweet Pearce to the park, it makes my mood much more positive. I like the nights I can take Pearce to the park before I feel like I actually spent time with him, learning and watching him grow. Tonight we went to the park and for the first time he was interested in picking up leaves. Which to me was so neat, it may seem small but it’s exciting to see his interest in nature and not just toys!

5. Hug your partner. 
Life is hard, it’s exhausting and well sometimes you just need physical touch. Sometimes your partner needs it, so after work come home and hug your partner, tell them you love them, and ask them about their day! That moment might be the only moment you spend with them because your exhausted and after you fight your toddler to bed all you can do is sink into dream land.

6. spend time with friends and family. 
When I am feeling overwhelmed I like to hide. I don’t like to see people or talk to people or even do anything with anyone I just like to be in my world. But that’s probably because I am a huge home body, who really needs me time. I look forward to nights alone spending time with myself. But when I feel overwhelmed it’s important for my sanity to speak to my free counselors aka my friends and family! So I force myself to go on small outings or have small visits with friends, like going to the park with dogs, having a friend over for a play date or even just talking on the phone!

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These few things have been really helping me these last few weeks which I have found to be overwhelming. When I feel this way I become a huge secluded loner. I don’t leave my house and I don’t usually want to talk to humans. So forcing myself to take care of myself and get out, always becomes a challenge! The important thing is to remember that we are the biggest influence in our children’s lives so being happy, healthy and present is our job! If you have anything you do for yourself that helps at times like this please share!

xOx

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Happy Birthday to my Husband Chris <3

Today my husband turns 30, wow! Where did our 20s go! I met my husband when he was 20 years old, crazy, young, and pretty much the same guy as he is now but like good wine, I think he has gotten better with age!

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It’s incredible to think that 10 years ago we were just meeting and I was just falling head over heals. Since the day I met Chris there was always something about him. It was like subconsciously I knew I would marry him one day!


Our love story is long, messy, and a roller coaster but the best part is it’s still happening. Chris has always done his best to ensure that I don’t get bored. His hard exterior is just a show for his soft and lovable personality. I still can’t believe that I got him. I knew from the moment I met him that no man would ever compare and that I needed to have him in my life! I would share our story, but it’s somethings are best left shared between two people.

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So why write a blog about my husband? Well he is an incredibly hard-working man who supports our family, ensure we still have fun even when times are tough, and still remember to keep making me fall in love over and over. I think its important to take time and celebrate the people who we care about. The ones behind the scenes, and well 30 is kinda a big deal!


To many Chris is a great friend, always there to lend an ear, share a few drinks or hop on the ice and play a few games. To us he is a father, a husband, a friend, a lover and sometimes a second child. He is so many incredible things all in 1. He has more friends than I can even count and somehow he is able to maintain all his friendships. He pushes me to be a better version of myself, to keep my dreams and to always strive to succeed.


In the 10 years my husband has been in my life he has truly helped me overcome so many insecurities, obstacles and I can’t imagine going through them with anyone else! He is exactly what I always wanted in a partner and I only hope that I will be by his side for many more birthdays.


Christopher, happy birthday, may this year be a great year and may we keep making each other happy! I love you with all of me and I promise to try harder to fold all the socks. As long as you promise to never stop dancing, or having fun! 

xOx love you.