Hospital Bag

As many of you know I am in my third trimester and have been spending the past few weeks getting my hospital bag ready, and this involves unpacking and repacking a few times. Making lists of things to pick up, and things to add, and taking out things I have changed my mind about only to re-add them later – typical indecisive pregnant lady thoughts.

When I gave birth to my son I went super basic, and my mom had to bring me stuff from her house because there were so many things I didn’t think of. But I’ve decided to share with you what I am bringing, and what I will be using from the hospital

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Mom’s Bag: 

  1. This time I opted for a house coat, last time we had so many visitors come to the hospital, Pearce was a bit of a traumatic birth, and it was really uncomfortable to be nursing, and having all my husbands friends around, and just sitting in a hospital gown or my mothers night-gown she brought me which was not nursing friendly. I got my house coat from Pink Blush Maternity, I went for a mid-length one and am really pleased with the quality.
  2. As stated below it was really difficult to breast feed in the night-gown my mom brought me and the last thing I wanted to wear was pants LOL. So I opted this time for 2 night gowns. One black one that is a tank top style from the Gap, and One that is a T-shirt Style from Thyme Maternity, Both will be great for breast-feeding and are long enough that I feel comfortable and aren’t too thick as I tend to run hot even when I am not pregnant!
  3. I also packed a pair of flip-flops – for showering at the hospital, and a pair of slippers for walking around at the hospital. – no specific type or brand
  4. I packed my favorite pillow and put an extra pillow case on it (that’s black – self-explanatory)
  5. When I gave birth to Pearce I did not buy ANY nursing bra’s prior, my thought was that I don’t want to spend the money and not be able to nurse, as I know so many woman who struggled with this. This time I purchased a few soft ones from Amazon, (since my boobs changed so much after the initial engorgement I will wait to buy any wire or supportive ones till that happens). I purchased a 4 pack of nursing bra’s from Amazon, they came with back extenders which is so nice when you first give birth. They were 4 for $39.99 which is pretty hard to beat (black, pink, beige and white)!
  6. I always like to pack my own towel and face cloth, just because I do like to shower after giving birth and having one from home just makes you feel more comfortable, and I have an obsession with washing my face with really hot water with a face cloth a few times a day.
  7. I packed a going home outfit – A pair of baggy sweat pants, a t-shirt and a sweater, nothing fancy, Comfort is key for me. As well as Warm Socks for the cold hospital floor when my slippers are too far away.
  8. Nursing pillow, I just have a jolly jumper one that I got when I was pregnant with Pearce, I didn’t find that I used it too much, except for at the hospital

Toiletry Bag:

  1. Loofa – This is self-explanatory, I bring a new loofa whenever we go anywhere.
  2. Earth Mama Herbal Perineal Spray – I didn’t have this spray with my son but I opted for it this time, just knowing how things feel down there before and after labor, so Far I have found it really helpful.
  3. K’Pure Smooch Lip Balm , K’Pure Get Closer Deodorant  & K’Pure Keep Going spray
  4. So Luxury Sitz Bath – I packed this as I plan to put it in my spray bottle for my bottom bits after labor!
  5. Then I packed your regular travel toiletries

For My Hub:

  1.  Change of Clothes – with Extra socks
  2. I Packed a sweat shirt this time for him as last time he was very cold.
  3. Snacks – I made some pumpkin muffins and froze them that we will grab on our way out the door and other snacks I know he will like
  4. Toiletries
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For The Baby:

  1. I grabbed the Baby Starter Kit from K’Pure Naturals as it came with everything I would want for the hospital, I have used the sleepy time bath stuff on my son since he was an infant. The Numpfer baby cloth is so incredibly soft compared to what the hospital provides.
  2. I packed 4 Sleepers, my last birth we were in the hospital for a few days so I wanted to pack a few to be safe
  3. I packed So Luxury Coco Oat Bath  – Depending on babes skin I may use this instead of the K’Pure sleepy time.
  4. I packed 2 pairs of socks, and 2 pairs of hand mits to cover babe from scratching
  5. I packed 4 diapers and a pack of wipes – I plan on using the diapers from the hospital so these were just extra.
  6. I packed 1 Muslin receiving blanket (I always used this as a breast-feeding shield with my first), 2 regular cotton receiving blankets, and 1 blanket to go over the car seat
  7. Take Home outfit for girl and Take home outfit for boy – I like to pack a different outfit for each gender so its obvious what we have in the picture. This time I got the outfits from Jax and Lennon.
  8. Nipple leaking pads – its unlikely that I will be leaking at the point of leaving the hospital because my milk most likely won’t have come in yet, but they’re packed just in case
  9. I also packed little knit skates we got made for my son, we didn’t know the gender of my son either so we had Pink, and blue laces made so I have packed them as well for babe to come home in. Below is a picture of the one I got in case its a boy, But I also got a matching bow so it can work for both!

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Its getting down to the final days of this pregnancy and I am so excited to meet this little bean and find out if it’s a boy or a girl, and to just really take some time to bond as a family of 4. Whether baby comes early, on time or late, I know that it is going to be an experience all its own!

xOx Chelsea 

Absence

Some of you may have noticed that it has been awhile since I have written. This year has brought so many amazing things into my life, and so many overwhelming feelings that I was not prepared to feel.

I discussed in my last blog that I suffer from social anxiety, and after writing it I had so many friends reach out and tell me they had no idea. I thought writing about how I was feeling would be therapeutic and help me to better deal with what I was going through. But the truth is that it did and it didn’t.

To start, I don’t want to say that it didn’t help to write about it, because it did, I think the problem was that I wasn’t ready to deal with them. The past few months have been an emotional roller coaster. From the highest of highs, to the lowest of lows, the truth is that life is hard. It isn’t always easy and people come into your life and leave your life, and things happen that have ripple effects. Sometimes when you get everything you’ve always wanted you aren’t prepared to not feel complete? – Let me explain.

From the moment I became a mother to our beautiful little boy, I felt a sense of meaning, that I finally knew what I wanted from life, what I needed and that I had found something that really made me happy – I couldn’t wait to do it again! Flash forward 2.5 years and after many discussions with my husband, friends who have multiples, we tried and we got pregnant. It was all I had wanted, but I couldn’t explain why this didn’t make me the happiest person in the world. So many people long for babies, and try and try and it doesn’t happen or suffer loses, and we were truly blessed that this time around trying, it happened right away. We are going to be a family of 4 – what I wasn’t prepared for was the feeling of loss. Sometimes gaining one more means that you have to mourn the loss of an only child, you have to mourn the loss of time, and you have to admit that getting pregnant at a time when you’re not emotionally healthy can be hard.

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This year has been one of the hardest in a long time. I felt the best way to deal with it, wasn’t to pretend my life was perfect and continue writing blogs, when I didn’t have my heart in it. I didn’t want to pretend on social media that I was this incredibly happy person, when the truth is most days I didn’t feel that way. We are gearing down to the end of this pregnancy, and I see the light at the end of the tunnel. The morning sickness has finally ended, I will be going on leave at the end of the week and I know it couldn’t come at a more perfect time. The aches and pains are coming on stronger, and I know this means our little bundle is coming soon. My family has gone through so much the past few months and I know we are ready to bring this baby into this family with happy hearts. I know that it won’t be easy, or all be good days but I think I am finally emotionally healthy to bring this baby. Part of me thinks I needed each one of these bad days, these struggles, these lessons to get to this point – part of me thinks it was too much to deal with. But I am so excited for the future.

My absence from the blog was really good for me, as much as It brings me pleasure and fulfillment in writing sometimes its nice to step away, not put so much on yourself to enjoy the family time, the toddler snuggles, the married life and not put extra pressure on things. I have tried to spend as much time as possible really enjoy Pearce before our time together is shared. I think this for me will be the hardest, I have no idea what our future brings or what being a mom of 2 is all about but I am so excited to find out.

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Until baby’s arrival later next month, I plan on enjoying snuggles with the toddler, and puppies. Possibly a date night with the hub, and definitely some oreo cookies dipped in milk.

Tata For Now Friends ❤ 

xOx Chelsea

How to Kick the Season Blues

So Christmas is over, the hustle and bustle of Boxing Day has passed, and the excitement of New Years is gone. You’ve given yourself a New Years resolution, but you’re unmotivated, you’re lost, and you just can’t kick these seasonal blues that the Holidays have left you with – I am right there with you!

So I spent the last few weeks researching some amazing tips on how to kick these seasonal blues that the Holidays and your after Christmas credit card bill has left you.

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I decided to research these tips when I found myself, just starting December and feeling absolutely lost, alone and really sad. I have no reason to feel these, I have a supportive husband, an affectionate 2 year old, and amazing friends and family. I had just signed up for a new work out routine with a trainer that I was so excited for, but something was missing. I will tell you what it was, it was my motivation, my self love, and my happiness. We found ourselves renting our friends basement suite this holiday season as we waited to get into our new home and I think the lack of my routine and sons routine really wore on me. So I decided to kick this sadness to the curb and do something about it. I researched ways to boost my mood, tips to deal with seasonal depression, how to handle the debt that comes with the holidays, and how to deal with Stress. I found so many amazing tips, and started to think, I can’t be the only person who feels this way. As I went through my training program we were asked to complete mindset modules that really made me think about my feelings and so many people had similar feelings I did. So here we are, the blog post to help you kick the Seasonal Blues.

  1. Are you holding onto something that hurt you?
    I recently had some fallings out with people, some in which I felt attacked my character, and sometimes I found myself re-reading these messages, So I deleted them. (I save everything messages) I have saved a ton of screen shots over the years, emails and things from people that were really hurtful to me. So I decided purge, why let these things from 5 years ago weigh me down? 2018 would not be another year of self contentiously holding this pain any longer.shit happens
  2. Are you letting the stress of the future weigh on you?
    We all dread the after Christmas bills, we feel pressure from our partners, are families, and our society to get these amazing expensive gifts, maybe not even expensive but lots of people to give thanks to with gifts. Then the bills come and you feel the pressure of that. Or maybe there is a looming event you don’t want to attend and that is looming. Whatever it is, don’t let the future weigh on you. Focus on each day. Take steps to make sure that you are living in the moment – and enjoying it!
  3. Start each day with a nice thought!
    I literally found myself waking up and not being able to go to the gym, barely being able to get up for work. It was a serious struggle, so I decided to start my day with 1 nice thought to myself. Whether it was something I was grateful for, or something that about myself that I liked. Many days it felt overly forced, but slowly I noticed it making a serious change in my mood. I could see the difference on days I forgot, but soon a habit started and my mood changed.
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  4. Spend time thinking about what you have to be grateful for
    I read this awesome tip, spend time each night to review your day. In that day what were 3 things that made you happy, or that you were grateful for. Some days all that was on my list, was my families health, my extra 10 mins of sleep, the fact it wasn’t raining or snowing. But when you have a bad day, having this journal to look back on, can really help you ground yourself and find happiness in the worst of days/moods.
  5. Take time for yourself.
    As a parent this can be really difficult, but it is so important to take time for yourself and enjoy it. It is vital for us to do something for ourselves each day, if you don’t your going to go crazy!! My time for myself started as a few extra minutes standing in the hot shower, to some days sitting in my car after work and take a few minutes to meditate or review the day. Sometimes it was going to get my hair done, going to the gym or a work out class. Whatever it is that you enjoy – take a few minutes to do it, or a few minutes to just sit quietly and take in the day and let your mind rest, and recharge.
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  6. Get Exercise.
    Whether you go for a nice brisk walk, or make it to the gym for a work out there is no doubt that getting exercise really does make you happier. I knew I had lost my motivation so I signed up for a work out challenge where others could help motivate me and help me hold myself accountable.
  7. Try something new
    Maybe what your lacking in life isn’t positive thought rather you have gotten so stuck on the same old life. Try something new with a friend or just yourself, it may give you a challenge you are looking for or even just get that brain working in a new desiring way.
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  8. Give love to those you care about.
    Sometimes when we are needing love, we can feel the love we are needing by giving it to others. When I was feeling really down, I sent some important people in my life a quick message to say what they mean to me and to let them know I am thinking of them daily and am blessed to have them in my life. Even though we don’t see people everyday and we have friendships that don’t need to be affirmed to stay alive, you never know when your caring message will push them through a rough day! – It will also make your day better I promise!
  9. Think Positive
    It is funny how people always preach the think happy be happy, but it truly works. If you are always thinking negative you can’t expect anything good to come of it! So try to remind yourself to be positive, and think positive.
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  10. Lastly face the fear.
    Reading about being negative thoughts and how to deal with them really seemed like the most important thing is to take a deeper look at where those feelings are originating from… what is really causing you to feel that way. What fear is your mind trying to protect you from. Spend some time thinking about it, and try to face it to give yourself some sanity .

I hope these tips help, remember that you aren’t alone in how you feel and that it is possible to change your mindset and start slowly kicking this Seasonal Blues.

xOx Chelsea