7 Ways to Achieve your 2020 Goals

Something I take a ton of pride in is setting goals each year on things I want to Achieve, Over the new year I shared those with you. I like to get deep and raw and also semi surface level for my goals.

For some people goals are super hard, they are great at coming up with things they want to achieve, but how do they make those happen. How do they ensure that they succeed on those goals? Something I have been spending a lot of time focusing on is making sure I take actions to ensure I am constantly working towards my goals. The only one who can fail you, is yourself.

So I want to Dive into 7 things you can do to Help yourself achieve your goals, in order to do that, lets refresh on what my goals are so you can see how I have used these 7 tactics to help me work on my goals.

  1. Spend less time on things that aren’t important to me and more time focusing on the good things around me
  2. Learn to Run
  3. Cut Debt in Half
  4. Do more things to the house

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Now that we know what my goals are here are 7 tactics to help you achieve your goals. And I will tell you how I put them in to play.

 

1. Each week/Month create a goal that helps you achieve your long-term goal – this is a mini goal, something you want to achieve that week that helps you get to the big picture.

With my goal of learning to run, I downloaded an app goal Couch to 5 k – (C25k) this app teaches you how to run, from there I set myself a goal to complete a work out each week with the app.

Cutting my debt in half, I removed all my credit cards from my online subscriptions so that they would only come off my debit card, So as not to accumulate any new debt. I made a goal to pay things off faster, So I made a list of the things I owe money on from lowest to highest example: (this is not my actual debt)

Credit card – $500
Student Loan – $1000
Car Payment $15000

From there I started to put each month I make payments on my smaller debt, to pay that off, and as I pay each item off I move onto the next one, in the process eliminating the amount of things I owe, instead of trying to pay off a large number of things at 1 time.

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2. Follow 5 people each week that inspire you or have similar goals at the same time instantly remove people who do not align with your goals and where you want to be ( If you don’t want to unfollow because you run in their crowd simply hit the mute button)

This one is huge for me, I wanted this year to be more about me, creating a positive space in my life to allow me to work on myself. Something I heard today from the Birds Papaya Podcast was each time you hit follow on Instagram, you are giving that person power to impact your life. So, who are you giving power to? Does that person align with the life you are trying to have? Do they have similar goals? How are they making you feel about your life?

For me I spent the better part of the last 4 months unfollowing people, following new people in real life and Instagram. Sometimes we love people, but they don’t put us in a good frame of mind, and that’s okay. We can love people from a distance while we work on ourselves.

I decided to follow people who go for runs or discuss running. I also followed some people who talk about living a more debt conscious lifestyle. As well I will always continue to follow my core home décor peeps.

I unfollowed people who made me feel less than, models who lives perfect lives and always looked perfect no matter what. I unfollowed people who didn’t seem to be portraying their authentic selves. I followed people who started to talk about body positivity, and loving themselves, because that is what I want to see when I scroll.
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3. SPEAK YOUR GOALS OUT LOUD!!!

I write this one in caps lock because how many of us make goals and share them with no one. We secretly tell ourselves this year I am going to lose 15 lbs, or this year I am going to be a more positive person. But we do nothing with that goal, because we don’t say it, we don’t communicate it, we don’t hold ourselves accountable.

Studies show that people who talk about their goals, share their goals, and say them out loud are more likely to achieve them, because they feel more pressure to hold themselves accountable to them. So, what if me learning to run and holding myself accountable to doing 1 run a week with my app, was holding me accountable because I shared it with all of you! I will tell you I already feel more accountable to completing it because people know it. Try it. If you have a goal, I want you to share it with 1 person, and than 2 people – I promise you will put it into action!

I am currently doing a reduced sugar challenge with my work out program (The Progress Project) Something I have done is share that with all my coworkers, so that they know what I am doing, they discuss it with me, and when things come up that could work against my goal, I have them to lean on, and as well by telling them, it keeps me accountable in a place I spend 75% of time.
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4. Surround yourself with people who have similar goals!

If my goal is to reduce my debt, I shouldn’t spend my time hanging out with people who go shopping every weekend, who subscribe to every subscription box, or who eat out every meal. It would completely hinder my success towards my goal, right? Yes!

So that also means that if you have a goal that’s a more internal goal, say you want to spend your time gossiping less, well guess what, you need to surround yourself with people who gossip less, it’s a known fact that we pick up habits from who we spend our time with. So, we need to ensure that the people we spend our time with, have similar goals, or that they never try to discourage you from achieving them – this can be done by doing number 3!!! Tell your friends your goals so they can help you work towards achieving them, and if your goal is to gossip less, tell them, because chances are it might become their goal too!
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5. Find something to listen to that inspires you to achieve your goals.

I have a few of these, since I commute, I spend about 1.5 – 2 hours a day in my car, which is a great time for me to reflect on my goals and put things into action. So something I do is crush audible books and listen to podcast – I say crush because 99% of the time I get so into them that the book follows me into the house while I am making dinner, doing laundry and I spend a lot less time watching meaningless tv when I am in a good book.

Something that was super important to me was to listen to challenge myself this year to listen to books to help me put things to action, I can demolish a true crime book, but what If I took that same time I am using to listen to a true crime book, and listened to something that helped motivate me towards reaching my goals. I started the first 2 weeks of 2020 listening to Rachel Hollis – Girl wash your face. In the book there is a ton of stuff that I don’t necessary believe but at the end of the day, I finished that book being more determined to work on my goals than I had when I made them. That’s the kind of thing you want to listen to if you want to achieve things this year. You can look at 100 memes talking about achieving your goals but if you spend time to actually listen to how other people achieved their goals, you will 100% be motivated.

Some of my favorite things I have listened to that have motivated me are:

The Birds Papaya podcast
The Jess Nadine Podcast
Earn your happy podcast

There are literally so many! So many amazing things, and countless books. I do plan on doing a blog post soon with 10 must reads to help keep you motivated towards your goals for 2020.  stay tuned.
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6. Post a picture that correlates your goal to yourself – somewhere where you see it everyday.

So many people believe that if you manifest it, it will come true – guess what I am literally one of those people. I believe that what you put out into the universe comes back to you, one example. I told myself I am going to work hard, and I am going to lose my baby weight, and I did it 2x. I haven’t lost it all, but I put a damn good dent in it, and guess what I am still manifesting it daily.

Rachel Hollis discusses in her book that she has a picture of a vacation condo in Hawaii in her closet. Try putting a picture of something you want to achieve up where you can see it everyday. Subconsciously your brain will help you to achieve this because it will see it everyday, it will manifest. If you ever wanted to achieve something, do this. Do this one thing, find a picture that helps you feel motivated towards something and post where you look at everyday. – guess what my picture is, it’s the picture below. $0 debt, how many of us which we had no debt. Well I am manifesting it; I am telling the world that it is more important for me to have no debt than to spend my money frivolously. So, take the time find a picture that speaks to you and share it with your brain everyday.

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7. Last but certainly not least. Forgive yourself.

Everyday will not be a perfect day, you are going to do things that take you steps away from your goal, but this is a journey it is not a catwalk. You are taking steps daily to achieve goals that are going to take time to achieve. You are not taking a short cut to reach your goal. So, 1,2 ,3 little things are not going to hurt your process of achieve your goals. The trick is to not let those mistakes, or slips, steer you away from achieving what you want from 2020. Or want from your life forever. You owe yourself more than that.

Last night was my husbands birthday, and we had birthday cake I had a small piece knowing that it was over my daily sugar goal, and then an amazing family showed up with ice-cream cake for him, and instead of saying no and being sad and grumpy because I didn’t enjoy myself I had a small slice. And you know what, this morning I woke up, and I looked the same as yesterday. My body looked the exact same. Because 1 day is not going to lose track of 1 year of working my butt off. Just like 1 small action is not going to take away countless steps and actions towards your goal. So, I say forgive yourself, because you will screw up, you will take actions away from your goal, you will not feel like manifesting for a day. But promise me you will forgive yourself and start again. You won’t let that 1 slip become the slope that takes you. Allow yourself to be human.

 

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I hope these help you, because I shared them with you, to hold myself accountable to do them all. I am putting it into the universe that the goals I made this year are important to me, and that I want to achieve them, so I am going to talk about them, again and again. I am going to work on ways to achieve them, everyday. But guess what, I want you to achieve your goals too. I want you to be the best you, I want you to look in the mirror and love yourself just like I now do. It took me 9 months of hard work, a ton of mindset work but I do. I want everyone to feel this way, I want you to look in the mirror and just be proud of what you see looking back. So, if you want to start now, drop your goal below and give it power. Share it with me so you hold yourself accountable for making 2020 a year where your manifestations become reality.

 

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Remember, everyday is a new day to find joy!

 

oXoX Chelsea

Goodbye 2019! Hello 2020!

 

Wow, I cannot believe the year is gone, its been a wild one. With 11 months of it on maternity leave I feel so incredibly blessed to have gotten to spend so much quality time with my kids. This year was a big year for my husband and I, he started a new job, we had a new baby and we realized how busy life truly can be!

I think I will always remember this year for how great it was. It brought us so many blessings, and a few bumps but at the end of it all I feel so blessed. I like taking time at the end of the year to look back and talk about some of my favorite memories. So, I put together my top 12 Favorite Memories of 2019! I also reviewed my goals for 2019 – how’d I do? and made some New Goals for 2020! Check it all out and then leave me a comment with your 2020 goals!

Top 12 Moments of 2019

 

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Sasquatch Mountain for my husband’s birthday

This takes the cake for January; my husbands Uncle was in town whom he shares a birthday with. So, we headed to Sasquatch Mountain – his Uncle is a bit of a dare devil. Decided to get lunch and go tubing, it was an amazing day the sun was shinning, and it was truly so much fun!! Pearce loved it and we could barely sneak him away. Brooks had a lot of fun watching but mostly just slept which made things easy! My husband and his Uncle forced me to go down too and I was so glad I did it was so much fun! I see us going back this year, but it will be a little harder to wrangle our busy little Brooks.

SNOW FUN! – Tubing at Nana’s House

My Favourite memory in February was tubing down the hill at my mom’s place in Mission. Growing up we had the best hill for sledding and all the neighborhood kids would come and go sledding. I was so excited for the snow this year and being able to take Pearce to my moms to go sledding. He is such a dare devil that he was running and jumping on the sled. I don’t think I have ever smiled so much! I absolutely love watching him and seeing how brave he is. We also had my best friend who used to be my childhood neighbor come and join and it made me feel young again!

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Family Trip to Gibson’s!

March was a bit of a tough month; our close family friend was in a motorcycle accident and for a few days we weren’t sure what the outcome would be! But we managed to sneak away to Gibson’s to visit our amazing friends and make some memories with the kiddos. My husband even snagged a picture of Brooks and I sleeping with our mouths open! It was a quick little trip with some amazing food, but it was needed!

 

Easter at Maan Farms

This one is an easy one, every year we take Pearce to Maan farms for their amazing Easter Egg Hunt and every year we have the best time! This year Pearce was super into it and it made the experience a lot more fun, we even searched for the golden egg – but we’re not successful at finding it! I had a little scare and lost him for about 10 mins but thanks to my amazing friends I attended the event with they managed to keep me calm and help me find him. We learnt a big lesson that day about not running away from where we are playing!

 

Our Family Trip to Vernon for the Laverman Wedding

It was hard to narrow it down, May was such a good month, but going to Vernon for 5 days and getting away from everyday life was amazing! I got to spend some quality time with my kids and sister and family. We rented the cutest house which made it so amazing to enjoy our stay with 2 kids. The wedding was stunning, and Vernon must be one of the cutest little towns to explore in the Okanagan. Stopping at the Kangaroo Farmwas a highlight for us and made us want to go back and stay in Lake Country next time! We also lucked out and were in Vernon at the same time as my Dad’s annual soccer tournament, so we got to watch 2 of my dad’s soccer games – which I haven’t done since I was a kid. I drove home that weekend feeling so refreshed, and so happy!

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Top Mom Blogger Event

The top Mom Blogger event in downtown Vancouver put on byVancouver Mom was an amazing event. I got to meet so many amazing women who are doing awesome things. I have bonded with many of these women and became friends. The event truly had me step outside of my comfort zone and challenge myself and for that I am forever grateful. The second part of the event was Leading Moms was an incredibly inspiring event where so many wonderful women spoke about just ways, they have bettered life, struggles they have had. For me I walked away from the better feeling better about myself and having a few extra skills to take on life.

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Cultus Lake Adventure Park

July was an amazing Month, we did so much, so many trips to lakes, beaches, water parks. But the best day was when we went to Cultus Lake Adventure Park for their 30th anniversary event and literally put a shift in staying they’re for 8 hours. I only made it through the day because of my waterproof baby wrap that Brooks slept in. But wow it was so much fun! Pearce went on so many water slides, played nonstop and had 0 tantrums! He still talks about it, “Remember when we went to the big water park in Chilliwack, wasn’t that fun mom?” I love that we were so graciously given the experience to make wonderful memories with our kids.

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August Long Weekend/Pearce’s Birthday!

August was another fun month, and I pulled one over on my husband which was super fun! I planned a surprise golf day with him with a ton of his friends and then we had a huge BBQ at our house after with our close friends, and headed to whistler the next morning for some R&R. It was an awesome weekend, and the perfect quick get away.

Pearce’s Birthday started a little stressful for me getting in a tiny accident before the party but after dealing with that it was such a fun day. We had his party at Play Abby as per his request and it was a Life of Pets theme. He played so much and ate so many goodies and was completely spoilt. Gone are the days of Mom’s pinteresting party ideas, because he has already planned what his themes are for the next 4 years and what fun place will be hosting them!

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The Sunflower Festival at Maan Farms

A huge highlight was attending the Sunflower Festival at Maan Farms – What an incredible display they put on! Everything was done so well, and the kids absolutely loved it!! I think my favourite was the blue truck parked in the middle of the sunflowers. I was so impressed! We spent the day running through the sunflowers and enjoying the delicious Mama Maans Butter Chicken. I know you want to know the wine is delicious! We sipped wine and relaxed while the babies napped, and it was one of my favorite memories with a few of my favorite people.

 

Hallowe’en & Brooks is One!

Hallowe’en was my favorite day in October. We had the best day, starting it off nice and early by checking out the events at the Mission Leisure center – CRAZY, but so much fun. Then we went home for a nap and headed to Historical Downtown Mission for trick or treating, which the kids loved. After dinner it was back out Trick or Treating in a nearby neighborhood and after each house the kiddos had to show each other what they got – so genuinely excited for their little treats. Our little baby also turned one and we did a Time Flies theme that was so much fun!

Kaitlyn Bristowe Fall Crawl Tour

One of my highlights of this year was getting to see Birds Papaya and Kaitlyn Bristowe in Vancouver with my gf. I absolutely love Kaitlyn she can always put me in a good mood with her sense of humor, but bird’s papaya aka Sarah is just so inspiring and beautiful and brilliant. I left leaving feeling so motivated to change my mentality.

December all together!

I absolutely loved December, it seriously brought so much joy! From going to glow with the kiddos and getting to spend extra time with my hubby and the kids. It was the best. It was so nice to have extra time with the kids after returning to work last month. But I also got interviewed for a podcast which was HUGE for me, and seriously one of the biggest highlights of my life. If you haven’t listened to it, go check it out, its all about Self love and motherhood.

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My Goals For 2019:

Get myself back – Take time each day doing something for myself – I am more than just a mom 

Wow that statement – I am more than just a mom, I am so glad I made this a goal for myself because I can honestly say that for the most part I totally crushed this goal!

Stop and Enjoy the children – Sometimes I get so caught up in each day, and getting through it, I don’t take time to stop and enjoy how beautiful little boys are

I think every parent wishes they did this more, Hopefully I can continue to take time to enjoy each of my children just a little bit more each year.

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Go on a family trip – Now that we are a family of four, I really want to go on a trip with our little fam and start showing the kids all the cool places this round thing has to offer. 

Well we didn’t go on too many trips, but we did make it on a few that were fun! Hopefully more in the years to come 🙂

Stress Less – This past year did nothing if not show me that all things work out. So, I just want to spend less time stressing myself out and more time just having faith in life. 

This is another goal I can honestly say I have accomplished. I stress so much less about the small stuff. Not only does it make life easier, but it has really helped with my anxiety.

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2020 Goals: 

I have been thinking long and hard about what I want my goals to be for 2020 and what is going to be important for me to accomplish, Here goes:

Spend less time on things that aren’t important to me and more time focusing on the good things around me:

I spent a lot of time this year putting effort and time into things that weren’t important to me and into people that don’t return it. I have so little time that I can put towards things I want, so for 2020, I want it to be about things I care about. I can sometimes get in my head and be a negative Nancy so I am hoping that by focusing more on what’s important to me I can also focus on the good things around me also!

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Learn to Run:

This is something I have wanted to do for a long time, I have always been a sprinter, and I am trying to spend less money next year and be a little more frugal so I want to look at spending less money on fitness, Running outside is free!

Cut debt in half:

So something that has never been huge to me is getting out of debt. Everyone seems to have debt, so it never really seemed important. But something that is the number one cause of divorce is money, so my husband and I want to ensure that money is never a reason for us to divorce. How are we doing that, by getting rid of debt, and spending less on things that are necessary. I’ll be sharing our journey on how to cut costs and reduce debt in the coming months!

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Do more things to the house:

When I first moved into our home, I had a lot of ideas on how to make it be a home I could love. But over the last year I let a lot of things around me really bring me down in this department and I got comfortable with just hating things around my home and doing nothing about it! So, I’ve decided that this year I want to do more projects around the home!

 

Those are my 4 New years goals, I hope that 2020 brings everyone everything that they desire and a lot of happiness, love and health!

I would love to hear what your New Years goals are, feel free to tell me in a comment below.

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xOx Chelsea

The end of Maternity Leave has Come

Its official, the end of my maternity leave has come and I didn’t think I anticipated being emotional over it, but today (Tuesday, November 12th) I was a complete wreck. I think up until now it felt surreal to be going back, like a day that would never truly come. Until today I spoke to my boss and am all set up to be returning and to put it bluntly SHIT GOT REAL! I cried to my husband, my bestfriend, my mom, basically to anyone who would listen, and then Pearce came up to me and hugged me and he said Mommy I love you, it will be okay. It felt so great to see that together my husband and I have raised such a great compassionate little boy who recognized my sadness and wanted to make me feel better.

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The past year has been absolutely amazing, due to some complications at the end of my pregnancy with Brooks, I went off work 1 month before he was born so I have been out of the office for 13 months, and 13 days when I go back on Monday. I feel so blessed to have gotten to spend so much time with my boys, made so many great memories, as I know some countries some women never receive this time, or this amount of time. I think what is hard for me is that I won’t have Pearce wake me up by asking me to make him breakfast, and asking what our plan is for the day. That we won’t get our daily snuggles in the morning with my coffee and his cartoons. Yes I know I get these on the weekend, But I am a hockey mom now so on the weekends its out the door early to Hockey.

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There will be less play dates with friends, less time to get things done, less time for slow mornings and busy afternoons. But for as long as I can remember I have been an ambitious woman who loves to work. I strive to succeed at something outside of the home, and to be perfectly honest when I went back to work after Pearce – I was a better a mom. The time away helped me to make our time more quality, we cherished our time together more and we made it work.

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I don’t worry about the kids, we have an amazing daycare provider who was my provider when I was a child – My children love her. I worry about how the house will stay clean, how the lunches will get made, how dinner will be on the table in time, and how I will make time for my workouts which help me to be a better person mentally. It seems every parent just wants more hours in a day, more energy to get things done and a few more cuddles from their babies.

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At the end of the day I know that we will do what works for our family. That it will take adjusting to see how everything will work and that I have 3 big supporters behind me everyday (My Helm Clan) Not to mention all our friends and family who support us. I spent last night going through pictures of the last year and CRYING a lot! But it was such happy tears, I truly had the best year off work!

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So Back in August I wrote a blog post about “10 things I want to do before Mat Leave is Over” and I thought it would be fun to share how much of it actually got done in the last 2 months!

  1. Science World: Never went – I sat down and thought this might be more fun when we can go as a family in a year or two and Brooks can enjoy it just a little bit more!
  2. H.R. Macmillan Space Center – Never went! – We are still planning on taking my son as he is SUPER into space, he talks to us all the time about the planets, the solar
    system and the moon! He will definitely be getting some space stuff for Christmas!
  3.  The World Of Kidtropolis – Never Went! – I might try to go this weekend before I go back on Monday but who knows if we will make it! Definitely need to check this out soon though!
  4. The Vancouver Aquarium – WE WENT! – This one we definitely got done, my girlfriend Crystal is a Marine Biologist who grows Jelly Fish, so Pearce got to feed the jelly fish, and go behind the tanks and he really enjoyed it! It was a lot of fun!
  5.  Cultus Lake Adventure Park – WE WENT! – We spent the last day of Summer (Labor Day) at Cultus Lake Adventure Park it was so much fun, I loved how stroller friendly it was, and how much Pearce could actually go on for being 4! It was super family friendly with lots of bathrooms, kid friendly meals, and lots of benches around to take seat on, my only complaint – Parking was a bit hard to find, but again we went on the last day of Summer when everyone was trying to squeeze in the last bit of fun!
  6. White Rock Beach – Never Went – I am really sad about this one, because when I was on Mat leave with Pearce I went a few times, and really enjoyed it. However living in Mission we are so lucky to be surrounded by beautiful lakes, that it just made more sense to stick close to home and enjoy some of our favorite beaches a short drive from home.
  7. Enjoy all our favorite Farms – We Went to 3/6! I am pretty bummed I didn’t make it to Laity Pumpkin Patch or Krause Berry Farms as those are two of my favorite places to go and I haven’t been to the Chilliwack corn maze since I was a kid! However we did go to Taves Farm and had an awesome time with a bunch of our friends, we even lost a few in the corn maze. I enjoyed ALOT of Birchwood Dairy Icecream, even at home sometimes! But of Course we went to Maan Farms a lot, this is by farm Pearce’s Favorite Farm, we go to them for their amazing Easter Egg hunt every year, their pumpkin patch and for the first time this year I attended the Sunflower Festival which was absolutely stunning!! I Can’t wait to make a lot of memories at all these farms for years to come!
  8.  The Drive In – Never Went! – Aiming to do this in August was wishful thinking. I think our kids might be a little too young for this still yet, but I definitely wanna take the kids, put an air mattress in the back of hubbys truck and just enjoy the family and the movies outside!
  9.  Mill Lake in Abbotsford – We Went! – So last month we had beautiful weather and my kids were driving me up a wall, and I thought how can I get Pearce to burn some serious energy? Lets make him ride his bike all around Mill Lake in Abby. Well lets just say he did not enjoy himself, he now calls it the really long lake, and it has made his feeling about Abbotsford a little bit sour. I told him he should be proud for riding his bike all the way around and hes only 4!! I made some cool videos of it too!
  10.  Stanley Park – Never Went – I really should have taken advantage of Stanley Park while at the Aquarium but to be honest my kids were being giant jerks that day, I know not nice to say Jerks but they were! So I just headed home. But Stanley Park holds a lot of really good family memories for me so I know my husband and I will take the kids, and that its not going anywhere!

 

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I love making lists for the future and taking time to review how I actually did on it. I have to say 4/10 is a pretty bad score, and I should probably try to slam a few of these in before the end of the year! Anyways, wish me luck on the journey of going back to work with two little babies, because this is a whole new world I don’t know if I am ready to enter!

xOx Chelsea