Absence

Some of you may have noticed that it has been awhile since I have written. This year has brought so many amazing things into my life, and so many overwhelming feelings that I was not prepared to feel.

I discussed in my last blog that I suffer from social anxiety, and after writing it I had so many friends reach out and tell me they had no idea. I thought writing about how I was feeling would be therapeutic and help me to better deal with what I was going through. But the truth is that it did and it didn’t.

To start, I don’t want to say that it didn’t help to write about it, because it did, I think the problem was that I wasn’t ready to deal with them. The past few months have been an emotional roller coaster. From the highest of highs, to the lowest of lows, the truth is that life is hard. It isn’t always easy and people come into your life and leave your life, and things happen that have ripple effects. Sometimes when you get everything you’ve always wanted you aren’t prepared to not feel complete? – Let me explain.

From the moment I became a mother to our beautiful little boy, I felt a sense of meaning, that I finally knew what I wanted from life, what I needed and that I had found something that really made me happy – I couldn’t wait to do it again! Flash forward 2.5 years and after many discussions with my husband, friends who have multiples, we tried and we got pregnant. It was all I had wanted, but I couldn’t explain why this didn’t make me the happiest person in the world. So many people long for babies, and try and try and it doesn’t happen or suffer loses, and we were truly blessed that this time around trying, it happened right away. We are going to be a family of 4 – what I wasn’t prepared for was the feeling of loss. Sometimes gaining one more means that you have to mourn the loss of an only child, you have to mourn the loss of time, and you have to admit that getting pregnant at a time when you’re not emotionally healthy can be hard.

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This year has been one of the hardest in a long time. I felt the best way to deal with it, wasn’t to pretend my life was perfect and continue writing blogs, when I didn’t have my heart in it. I didn’t want to pretend on social media that I was this incredibly happy person, when the truth is most days I didn’t feel that way. We are gearing down to the end of this pregnancy, and I see the light at the end of the tunnel. The morning sickness has finally ended, I will be going on leave at the end of the week and I know it couldn’t come at a more perfect time. The aches and pains are coming on stronger, and I know this means our little bundle is coming soon. My family has gone through so much the past few months and I know we are ready to bring this baby into this family with happy hearts. I know that it won’t be easy, or all be good days but I think I am finally emotionally healthy to bring this baby. Part of me thinks I needed each one of these bad days, these struggles, these lessons to get to this point – part of me thinks it was too much to deal with. But I am so excited for the future.

My absence from the blog was really good for me, as much as It brings me pleasure and fulfillment in writing sometimes its nice to step away, not put so much on yourself to enjoy the family time, the toddler snuggles, the married life and not put extra pressure on things. I have tried to spend as much time as possible really enjoy Pearce before our time together is shared. I think this for me will be the hardest, I have no idea what our future brings or what being a mom of 2 is all about but I am so excited to find out.

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Until baby’s arrival later next month, I plan on enjoying snuggles with the toddler, and puppies. Possibly a date night with the hub, and definitely some oreo cookies dipped in milk.

Tata For Now Friends ❤ 

xOx Chelsea

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How to Kick the Season Blues

So Christmas is over, the hustle and bustle of Boxing Day has passed, and the excitement of New Years is gone. You’ve given yourself a New Years resolution, but you’re unmotivated, you’re lost, and you just can’t kick these seasonal blues that the Holidays have left you with – I am right there with you!

So I spent the last few weeks researching some amazing tips on how to kick these seasonal blues that the Holidays and your after Christmas credit card bill has left you.

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I decided to research these tips when I found myself, just starting December and feeling absolutely lost, alone and really sad. I have no reason to feel these, I have a supportive husband, an affectionate 2 year old, and amazing friends and family. I had just signed up for a new work out routine with a trainer that I was so excited for, but something was missing. I will tell you what it was, it was my motivation, my self love, and my happiness. We found ourselves renting our friends basement suite this holiday season as we waited to get into our new home and I think the lack of my routine and sons routine really wore on me. So I decided to kick this sadness to the curb and do something about it. I researched ways to boost my mood, tips to deal with seasonal depression, how to handle the debt that comes with the holidays, and how to deal with Stress. I found so many amazing tips, and started to think, I can’t be the only person who feels this way. As I went through my training program we were asked to complete mindset modules that really made me think about my feelings and so many people had similar feelings I did. So here we are, the blog post to help you kick the Seasonal Blues.

  1. Are you holding onto something that hurt you?
    I recently had some fallings out with people, some in which I felt attacked my character, and sometimes I found myself re-reading these messages, So I deleted them. (I save everything messages) I have saved a ton of screen shots over the years, emails and things from people that were really hurtful to me. So I decided purge, why let these things from 5 years ago weigh me down? 2018 would not be another year of self contentiously holding this pain any longer.shit happens
  2. Are you letting the stress of the future weigh on you?
    We all dread the after Christmas bills, we feel pressure from our partners, are families, and our society to get these amazing expensive gifts, maybe not even expensive but lots of people to give thanks to with gifts. Then the bills come and you feel the pressure of that. Or maybe there is a looming event you don’t want to attend and that is looming. Whatever it is, don’t let the future weigh on you. Focus on each day. Take steps to make sure that you are living in the moment – and enjoying it!
  3. Start each day with a nice thought!
    I literally found myself waking up and not being able to go to the gym, barely being able to get up for work. It was a serious struggle, so I decided to start my day with 1 nice thought to myself. Whether it was something I was grateful for, or something that about myself that I liked. Many days it felt overly forced, but slowly I noticed it making a serious change in my mood. I could see the difference on days I forgot, but soon a habit started and my mood changed.
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  4. Spend time thinking about what you have to be grateful for
    I read this awesome tip, spend time each night to review your day. In that day what were 3 things that made you happy, or that you were grateful for. Some days all that was on my list, was my families health, my extra 10 mins of sleep, the fact it wasn’t raining or snowing. But when you have a bad day, having this journal to look back on, can really help you ground yourself and find happiness in the worst of days/moods.
  5. Take time for yourself.
    As a parent this can be really difficult, but it is so important to take time for yourself and enjoy it. It is vital for us to do something for ourselves each day, if you don’t your going to go crazy!! My time for myself started as a few extra minutes standing in the hot shower, to some days sitting in my car after work and take a few minutes to meditate or review the day. Sometimes it was going to get my hair done, going to the gym or a work out class. Whatever it is that you enjoy – take a few minutes to do it, or a few minutes to just sit quietly and take in the day and let your mind rest, and recharge.
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  6. Get Exercise.
    Whether you go for a nice brisk walk, or make it to the gym for a work out there is no doubt that getting exercise really does make you happier. I knew I had lost my motivation so I signed up for a work out challenge where others could help motivate me and help me hold myself accountable.
  7. Try something new
    Maybe what your lacking in life isn’t positive thought rather you have gotten so stuck on the same old life. Try something new with a friend or just yourself, it may give you a challenge you are looking for or even just get that brain working in a new desiring way.
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  8. Give love to those you care about.
    Sometimes when we are needing love, we can feel the love we are needing by giving it to others. When I was feeling really down, I sent some important people in my life a quick message to say what they mean to me and to let them know I am thinking of them daily and am blessed to have them in my life. Even though we don’t see people everyday and we have friendships that don’t need to be affirmed to stay alive, you never know when your caring message will push them through a rough day! – It will also make your day better I promise!
  9. Think Positive
    It is funny how people always preach the think happy be happy, but it truly works. If you are always thinking negative you can’t expect anything good to come of it! So try to remind yourself to be positive, and think positive.
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  10. Lastly face the fear.
    Reading about being negative thoughts and how to deal with them really seemed like the most important thing is to take a deeper look at where those feelings are originating from… what is really causing you to feel that way. What fear is your mind trying to protect you from. Spend some time thinking about it, and try to face it to give yourself some sanity .

I hope these tips help, remember that you aren’t alone in how you feel and that it is possible to change your mindset and start slowly kicking this Seasonal Blues.

xOx Chelsea

Merry Christmas and Thank you!

Wow, what a incredible year it has been. I take a look back at the blog, my life, and everything in it, and I am blown away! This year I had the pleasure of working with so many amazing local businesses, shops and the PEOPLE behind them. I also had people who took time to read my blogs about so much more than just these shops, about my life. So I wanted to just break it down in a blog about how grateful I am and to thank all of you!

Firstly I have to thank all the small shops, and the people who have allowed me to feature them on the blog – we hit a milestone this year with the blogs first birthday! It was extremely rewarding because I knew that I probably wouldn’t be still writing these blogs if it wasn’t for all the people who have allowed me to feature them. I am so grateful for your hard work, and all that goes into running your small shop. From taking time away from your children to follow your dreams so that you can provide a happy, healthy home for your children – For the small shops that don’t have children, do NOT think I appreciate you any less. I know there are some of you who work full-time and work on your business in the wee hours, YOU ARE ALL ROCK STARS, and I promise to feature you when ever you’ll have me, and to continue to support you all!

Secondly I just want to say thank you for everyone supporting me this year. It was a rough year, and I learnt a lot. It started off really rocky with a lot going on at home, but I am blessed to have this outlet, that allows me to forget everything crazy and stressful going on and to have this creative outlet where I can do what I enjoy most writing. Some of you may not know but since I was a very young kid I always wanted to be a writer, but never enjoyed English class. This blog gives me time to just enjoy writing without any pressure.

Last year for our Christmas feature we did 4 small shops, and this year we did 14! Its crazy to think that 14 small shops gave me this opportunity and I want to thank all of them! As well so many other shops that I had featured throughout the year also put together items for our Large Basket Giveaway, totaling $950 in local products. We had a number of giveaway throughout the year and also from these features this year, and I only hope we are given the same opportunities for next year.

I’ve got one last thing to ask of you all! Well three things!

1. If you know a lady who owns her own shop and deserves to be recognized or you want to nominate yourself please comment below for our ladies page!

2. If you know of a small shop or are a small shop and you want to collaborate in the new year let’s get in touch comment below or go to my contact me page!

3. If there is anything you would like for me to write about comment below I would love to give you all what you want!

Also as I post this thank you, I want to be honest I’m pooped! So I am going to be taking a break from blogging for the rest of the Christmas Season/New Year, to spend with my family! As I think we should all try and do! Expect me back in January for what I hope will be another great year

Have an amazing Holiday Season everyone!!

xOx Chelsea